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Episode 2084:
Steve Pavlina's exploration of personal productivity and relationships in "Are People Slowing You Down" sheds light on the delicate balance between pursuing one's goals with relentless focus and maintaining social connections. Pavlina's journey through coaching and self-reflection reveals the importance of adhering to personal standards, even when faced with social resistance, offering valuable insights for anyone looking to enhance their productivity without sacrificing personal relationships.
Read along with the original article(s) here: https://stevepavlina.com/blog/2020/04/are-people-slowing-you-down/
Quotes to ponder:
"Well-meaning people can slow us down if they hold us to lower standards than we wish to hold ourselves."
"A major challenge of living consciously is to continue acting in alignment with your own standards."
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[00:00:17] This is optimal relationships daily episode 2084. Are people slowing you down?
[00:01:24] improve. For instance, he hired a running coach to help him get better at running.
[00:01:30] This got me thinking about how coachable I was. I decided to try hiring a coach for six months while still in school, someone who was part of a coaching program offered by Dennis Waitley.
[00:01:35] When this offer came to me via postal mail, I thought, why not? That was a new and interesting
[00:01:41] experience for me. We had weekly 30-minute calls, which were very conversational.
[00:02:44] connect more with other people, and he gave me some tips on how to lean into that gradually.
[00:02:50] I had a small group of friends, and I thought my social life was okay for the time I had to devote to it. I was in a bit of a bubble socially though, and I didn't feel much desire to expand in that
[00:02:56] area. My friendships weren't particularly deep, but I actually felt okay about that.
[00:03:02] The coach spotted an imbalance, and in a way he unbalanced, but I was actually okay with that. I was getting so much juice from pursuing goals that mattered to me. When I released the coach, I actually went faster. I don't think this was due to saving 30 minutes a week from not doing the coaching calls anymore. I think it was from unshackling myself from the coach's expectations, which were lower
[00:04:24] than the demands I placed on myself. slow us down if they hold us to lower standards than we wish to hold ourselves. They'll often try to rope us back into the fold. I see this as a test from reality. Are you ready to stand up for your desires? Are you ready to develop and maintain your own standards, regardless of what other people think? Don't let other people's limits infect you.
[00:05:42] If you want to go further and faster, you can do so.
[00:05:46] But expect social resistance to rise up now and then. standards. What habits and practices feel aligned to you, even though someone else might consider those standards too extreme? Are you happiest when you maintain your standards or when you slip back down to lower standards that others can accept more easily? You just listened to the post titled, Are People Slowing You Down? by Steve Pavlina
[00:07:04] of StevePavmeals.com slash optimal50 to get 50% off. And many thanks to Steve for his post today. And this is a really relevant article for sure that definitely hit home for me.
[00:08:24] There's so much to be said about the people who we spend the most time around and the