2086: [Part 2] 7 Conscious Parenting Tips (from a Non-Parent) by Joel Bein on Unschooling & Intrinsic Motivation

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[00:00:17] This is Optimal Relationships Daily, Episode 2086. Seven Conscious Parenting Tips from a today. For long-term healthy relating, those deeper issues will need to be addressed over time. Quote, It's not our job to toughen our child up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless. That's by L.R. Noest.

[00:01:40] Number 4. Un-School

[00:01:42] The K-12 school experience is 15,000 hours of top-down coercive learning. You can simply get out of the way and let them follow their curiosity. Quote, wherever I go in the United States these days, I hear of something called the crisis of discipline, how children are not motivated, how they resist learning. That is nonsense, of course. Children resist teaching as they should, but nobody resists learning. That's by John Taylor Gatto.

[00:04:03] listen, and ask unending questions. The next time your son or daughter says something that you find alarming, choose to respond

[00:04:08] rather than react.

[00:04:10] That means deep listening and abundant curiosity.

[00:04:13] Tell me more.

[00:04:14] And what do you mean?

[00:04:16] Are two of the most powerful phrases known to mankind?

[00:04:20] For example, your six-year-old tells you that his friend Luke is bothering him to borrow

[00:04:24] his toys. 7. Skip both rewards and punishment Hot take! The only reason you want to use rewards and punishment with your child is because you received rewards and punishment when you were a child. So check your impulse and consider, are there better ways to interact with my children? Even just asking the question is powerful. Both rewards and punishment are

[00:05:42] forms of conditional love, fostering potential approval addiction or fear-based psychology. That's by Alfie Kohn. Breaking the cycle and birthing new ways of being. This topic fires me up because the do this because I said so psychology is the root of violence and coercion in the world. It is the major root of war, corruption, police brutality, prison systems, depression, anxiety,

[00:07:01] and more.

[00:07:03] All of which traces back to top-down conventional parenting and or schooling approaches. recognizing that we are always seeking to get our needs met. Curiosity, compassion, courage, and creativity become our friends as we grow. And don't forget making time for self-care. At the same time, I invite you to be fully honest with how you are showing up as a parent. How can you begin to make 1% shifts each day so you can nurture the healthiest of relationships

[00:08:22] with your child?

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[00:09:46] changes. take this type of advice, certainly without considering both your own opinions as well as maybe those who do have experience. But remember, someone who has not been in the trenches is likely to see a lot of opportunity, you know, opportunity that can become harder for us to see if we've become exhausted and limited by our own experiences.

[00:11:02] They're likely to have a simplistic view, which it can be valuable for us to return