2195: 3 Extreme Things I Would Do On The Day Of My Divorce by Eddie Corbano of Love's A Game on Ending A Marriage

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[00:01:04] by Eddie Corbano of Love's a Game.com.

[00:01:09] Hello everybody and welcome back to ORD with me, your host and narrator, Greg Audino.

[00:01:15] Great to have you here with me once again, and as always.

[00:01:18] And today we'll be hearing from Eddie Corbano, whose content focuses exclusively on breakup

[00:01:22] recovery and how to handle the aftermath of broken relationships.

[00:01:26] Which of course is an important niche when it comes to relationship content.

[00:01:30] So let's hear what he has for us this time as we optimize your life.

[00:01:38] Three Extreme Things I Would Do on the Day of My Divorce by Eddie Corbano of Love's a Game.com

[00:01:46] Eddie, what would you do if you got divorced today?

[00:01:50] That's a real question from a subscriber.

[00:01:52] The answer is that, without any hesitation, I would do three things immediately.

[00:01:58] Three important things that 99% of people going through breakups tragically fail to do.

[00:02:04] These aren't easy, and they are somewhat counterintuitive.

[00:02:07] But doing them is a prerequisite for a fast recovery, if you have been chosen to take this

[00:02:12] path.

[00:02:13] Don't be shocked, some people just don't want to heal.

[00:02:16] It didn't come naturally to me either.

[00:02:19] 16 years ago, I was paralyzed and clueless about how to get over my then ex.

[00:02:24] I made all the mistakes you can make.

[00:02:26] The worst one was that I was so completely unmotivated to engage in my recovery for such

[00:02:31] a long time.

[00:02:32] I allowed myself to aimlessly float down the proverbial river, allowing things to happen.

[00:02:38] I had no control over anything anyway.

[00:02:41] My second worst mistake.

[00:02:43] Then, of course, it all came crashing down, and I lost a precious year of my life.

[00:02:49] Think about that.

[00:02:51] A year of my life.

[00:02:53] Spending it by hoping, crying myself to sleep, walking through the streets like a zombie,

[00:02:58] almost losing my job, and worst of all, blocking myself from finding real love.

[00:03:05] I could have been with my today wife much earlier.

[00:03:07] What I didn't know back then is that recovery from a breakup progresses in stages, and it's

[00:03:13] a battle of mindsets and beliefs.

[00:03:16] Three things you should do right after your breakup.

[00:03:20] So, why should you care?

[00:03:21] How can you actually use this information?

[00:03:24] My hope is that this will pull you out of that mental state of inaction, if you are

[00:03:28] not seriously committed to your recovery yet.

[00:03:31] Maybe you're still clinging to hope or refusing to heal, fearing to lose them for good.

[00:03:36] Either way, here are three things Eddie Corbano, yours truly, would do if he were to sign his

[00:03:42] divorce papers today, and what you should do as well.

[00:03:46] Number one, I would inform my ex immediately that I need time and space to heal.

[00:03:52] I would not want to be contacted in any way.

[00:03:55] I would inform her face-to-face about that, to send a signal of confidence and strength

[00:04:00] to myself.

[00:04:01] I would not allow myself to be pulled into drama.

[00:04:04] But there are many cases where it makes much more sense to send a no-contact letter instead.

[00:04:09] You can use a proven template like the one we have in our course.

[00:04:12] I would also inform my children that I would see them a little less frequently for a short

[00:04:17] period of time.

[00:04:18] I'd go above and beyond to protect their emotional well-being.

[00:04:21] Number two, I would spend 80% of my efforts on convincing myself of two things.

[00:04:27] One, it's over between us.

[00:04:29] And two, this isn't my end, but my new beginning.

[00:04:33] As I've said before, wrong mindsets and beliefs are your enemies.

[00:04:38] I would fight this hard and with everything I've got, everything I've learned since

[00:04:41] my own breakup back then, and all the things that effectively worked on the hundreds of

[00:04:45] people I've coached since 2005.

[00:04:48] Number three, I would find someone to help me stay on track with no contact.

[00:04:53] A no-contact buddy or no-contact group would take care of relapses and weak moments.

[00:04:58] Because the no-contact rule in theory is a great concept, but so hard to follow without

[00:05:03] help.

[00:05:04] It's really all about motivation and perseverance, giving you time for a change in perspective.

[00:05:09] You need this so you can rediscover the person you really are, without all the disturbing

[00:05:14] ex-interference.

[00:05:16] That's what creates epiphanies and makes your recovery sustainable.

[00:05:20] Conclusion The three steps I've outlined are the things

[00:05:23] you should do the minute you decide you want to get over your ex.

[00:05:27] I recommend anyone to follow this, as it will prevent you from sabotaging your own recovery.

[00:05:32] This is basically a rough blueprint for getting over anyone fast.

[00:05:36] Yes, I know, it's all easier said than done.

[00:05:38] Believe me, nobody knows that better than I do.

[00:05:41] But here's the deal.

[00:05:43] You only have two options.

[00:05:45] Allow this devastating experience to consume you and block yourself off from life.

[00:05:50] Or use it to have better relationships in the future.

[00:05:54] Thus, breaking bad relationship patterns you've maybe had your whole life.

[00:05:58] Or finding emotional independence and inner peace.

[00:06:01] That's also a goal worth reaching for sure.

[00:06:04] I for one am very confident that I will never divorce.

[00:06:07] Because I laid the groundwork and attracted the right person, my wife.

[00:06:11] You can do that too.

[00:06:12] Take the steps I've outlined in this article.

[00:06:15] Whatever you do, have the courage to take the first step toward your recovery today.

[00:06:19] As I would being in your shoes.

[00:06:21] Your friend, Eddie Corbano

[00:06:27] You just listened to the post titled,

[00:06:30] Three Extreme Things I Would Do On The Day Of My Divorce.

[00:06:33] By Eddie Corbano of Love's A Game.com

[00:06:44] And thanks a lot to Eddie for this article.

[00:07:09] Especially since I have to assume it was at least slightly uncomfortable

[00:07:13] to imagine all of that.

[00:07:14] Now he's laid a great groundwork though.

[00:07:17] Something that we can all keep in our back pockets should we break up or divorce in the future.

[00:07:21] And that being said, we also need to embrace the unexpected.

[00:07:25] Both unexpected feelings and unexpected variables that pertain to our unique relationship.

[00:07:31] So for example, no contact is really not an option if you have children with this person.

[00:07:38] We also might find ourselves redefining no contact, you know?

[00:07:42] Maybe we don't want to reach out to be friends or to get back together,

[00:07:45] but we could find ourselves wanting to reach out and express anger instead.

[00:07:50] Convincing ourselves that it would be okay to do this if, you know,

[00:07:53] it means that we're only establishing further distance

[00:07:56] and wanting to get something off of our chest that we were unable to before.

[00:08:00] So I would take this article and focus mostly on the foundation of it,

[00:08:04] which is to take space, heal, and find a support system.

[00:08:08] Rather than getting so attached to the steps specifically.

[00:08:12] They are great, but they might be tougher to uphold than you think.

[00:08:16] That is going to do it for me though, troops.

[00:08:18] As always, I thank you for being here and making another episode possible.

[00:08:22] I hope you liked this one and took something from it.

[00:08:24] Though hopefully, again, none of us ever have to break up or get divorced ever again.

[00:08:28] Who knows? Wouldn't that be so nice?

[00:08:31] Okay guys, be sure to come on back tomorrow.

[00:08:33] I'm gonna have another post for you that I'm excited to share.

[00:08:36] That's where your optimal life awaits.