2223: Become the Woman that No Man Can Ever Leave by Evan Marc Katz on Dating Advice & Personal Development

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[00:00:16] Bequem durch Deine Stadt mit der Uber App. Uber vermittelt Fahrten und ist kein Beförderer. Das ist Optimal Relationships Daily Episode 22-23. Become the Woman that No Man Can Ever Leave by Evan Marc Katz of EvanMarcKatz.com. Hello everybody. Happy Saturday and thanks for tuning

[00:00:55] in to the podcast that's all about building better relationships, optimal relationships daily. It's great to have you here over the weekend, especially for a post that I believe we can all take something from. More on that in my commentary afterwards. First let's hear this

[00:01:09] post from Evan as we optimize your life. Become the Woman that No Man Can Ever Leave by Evan Marc Katz of EvanMarcKatz.com. I'm still buzzing from the email that I got from my former

[00:01:26] client Michelle. And let me say that Michelle is one of my favorite clients ever. Always good-humored, always confident, always present and most importantly always coachable, Michelle saw instant results in working with me. She attracted a man who was different than her previous boyfriends

[00:01:45] and that's exactly what she needed. After all, Michelle will be the first to tell you that she's a bit of a handful. And after dominating and losing respect for her last guy, she craved

[00:01:56] the attention of a man who was a little more alpha. She got him and she got all the problems that come with being with such a man. She couldn't tell him what to do, she couldn't make him say that

[00:02:07] he loved her fast enough, she couldn't ensure that he wanted to stick around for the future. Although Marc treated her great, he was still very much a man. Early 50s, successful, busy, a divorced father of a teenage son, he felt very fortunate to have landed a 33-year-old

[00:02:26] stunner like Michelle. All of the stories that Michelle told me reiterated how much he valued her and she was in a great comfort zone with Marc. He treated her well, he told her he loved her,

[00:02:38] he put up with her self-proclaimed brattiness and he alluded to a future together. But all relationships have their challenges and Marc and Michelle were no different. The elephant in the room for this couple was that Michelle very much wants to have kids,

[00:02:53] while Marc never really anticipated that he'd be a father again in his 50s. While I was coaching Michelle through the first four months of their relationship and intermittently in between, I cautioned her to not put any pressure on him about getting

[00:03:08] married and having kids. While theoretically she could be wasting her time with him, my advice was to let him fall in love with her. If he did, she would have a lot more leverage when the

[00:03:19] baby talk came up as opposed to trying to extract an answer out of him in the early stages of the relationship. This worked like a charm, because really it was no secret that Michelle wanted

[00:03:30] to be a mom and since Marc was a man of integrity, he wanted to do right by his girlfriend. He agreed last July to be the future father of her children. Then he changed his mind a few months later.

[00:03:44] No matter how much he loved Michelle, Marc just couldn't pull the trigger on a second round of fatherhood and they tearfully parted ways. I was sad for Michelle, but very proud at how she handled herself. Despite her high maintenance tendencies, she became better at understanding

[00:04:01] Marc's needs and point of view, and created the healthiest relationship that she'd ever had before. Every time she wanted to criticize him for how he handled his relationship with his son or his ex-wife or his boss, she remembered that men don't stay with women who treat them as

[00:04:17] incomplete projects. They bond with women who make them feel good. Most importantly from our work together, Michelle knew that her future husband wants to be a dad and thus she had no regrets about walking away when she did. That was the last I'd heard from Michelle,

[00:04:34] until today. Turns out that her breakup only lasted for one week. Marc loved Michelle. Her playfulness, her sexiness and yes, even her attitude and mood swings. After spending a year and a half together, Marc realized that he couldn't imagine life without her, which is as

[00:04:52] it should be. And while I give Michelle credit for becoming the woman that no man can ever leave, Michelle actually gives me credit. Here's a snippet of her note to me.

[00:05:03] I asked him why he had a change of heart and finally came to this conclusion. He said because he's in love with me. I can't tell you what this has done for me in this relationship.

[00:05:14] I feel so relieved and at ease with it all. Evan, you taught me to be playful, light-hearted, patient, kind and compassionate. You're an amazing, the best, dating coach. Thank you. Love Michelle. I love Michelle and I love this story. A confident, successful, attractive woman in her mid-30s

[00:05:35] finds a masculine, confident man, wins him over with her feminine energy and makes herself so indispensable to his life that he can't imagine being without her. I'm attending their wedding this summer in San Francisco and I couldn't be more excited for the

[00:05:50] both of them. Know that this is within your grasp and that true love will find you sooner rather than later as long as you prioritize your love life like Michelle did. You just listened

[00:06:05] to the post titled, Become the woman that no man can ever leave by Evan Mark Katz of evanmarkkatz.com and be sure to stick around for my comments coming right after this.

[00:06:16] And thanks to Evan for sharing this post today. It was a nice story that he offered about Michelle. Though I do hope that the takeaway everyone had is that while it's great to make these

[00:06:28] efforts to be such a desirable partner, we shouldn't stop doing so even if someone does leave us anyway. There are a number of reasons that a good couple might split up and not get

[00:06:39] back together in spite of the happy ending we heard here today. However, that doesn't mean that the work is for naught. We're all here to become better partners and that's all we can control. We can't control the outcomes because we can't control other people. And it's important

[00:06:55] that we remember that amidst our journeys to become the best we can for our loved ones. If we don't keep this top of mind and we mistakenly maintain a more transactional mindset, we're setting ourselves up for failure. But that's going to do it for today everybody.

[00:07:11] Thank you as always for tuning in and making this episode possible, especially over the weekend. Have a great rest of your day and be sure to join us again tomorrow for both our regularly scheduled episode as well as our weekly bonus episode. That's where your optimal life awaits.