2306: 12 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew 12 Years Ago by Marc Chernoff of Marc And Angel on Personal Growth

[00:00:00] [SPEAKER_00]: This is Optimal Relationships Daily 12 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew 12 Years Ago by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel.com

[00:00:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Hello everybody and welcome back to another Monday episode of Optimal Relationships Daily to kick off your week

[00:00:17] [SPEAKER_00]: I am your host Greg Audino

[00:00:19] [SPEAKER_00]: And I am here every weekday to help you optimize your relationships by narrating some of the best relationship blogs online

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Not to mention books, essays and a whole lot more

[00:00:28] [SPEAKER_00]: We all know that relationships can be a very complex area to navigate and today

[00:00:33] [SPEAKER_00]: We are going to hear the tips that happiness expert Marc Chernoff has to share on relationship truths and start optimizing your life

[00:00:45] [SPEAKER_00]: 12 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew 12 Years Ago by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel.com

[00:00:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Twelve years ago I was 18 and just entering college

[00:00:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Since then friends and acquaintances have come and gone

[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Girlfriends have come and gone and I met the love of my life, Angel

[00:01:04] [SPEAKER_00]: I found through my years, through my experience with my own personal relationships that there are certain

[00:01:10] [SPEAKER_00]: Undeniable truths that affect the quality and longevity of our relationships and the resulting impact they have on us

[00:01:17] [SPEAKER_00]: I share them with you today in hopes that they save you from a little heartache and confusion

[00:01:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Number one you have to love yourself first in order to truly have a loving supportive and long-lasting

[00:01:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Relationship with someone else you need to learn how to be your own best friend first

[00:01:33] [SPEAKER_00]: It's all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you

[00:01:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_00]: read the mastery of love

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Number two you get what you put in in

[00:01:49] [SPEAKER_00]: 12 years people won't remember what clothes you wore which car you drove and maybe not even your full name

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00]: But in 12 years, they will remember how you made them feel and the positive memories

[00:02:00] [SPEAKER_00]: You gave them the true impact you make on people will depend on the time and attention

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_00]: You give to teaching those who know less caring for those who have less

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_00]: supporting those who are striving and

[00:02:11] [SPEAKER_00]: tolerating those who are different than you

[00:02:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Number three what most people think of you doesn't matter

[00:02:18] [SPEAKER_00]: You wouldn't worry so much about what people thought of you if you knew just how seldom they do

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_00]: No one is ever going to care about your life and the way you choose to live it more than you will

[00:02:27] [SPEAKER_00]: That is a beautiful thing. Never forget how beautiful follow your heart and take your brain with you every step of the way

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Get to know your true self

[00:02:36] [SPEAKER_00]: When you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you but you won't care about it one bit

[00:02:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Number four friends and family won't always support your goals, but you must pursue them anyway

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Follow your intuition

[00:02:51] [SPEAKER_00]: Following your intuition means doing what feels right?

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it doesn't look or sound right to others only time will tell but our human instincts are rarely ever wrong

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_00]: So don't worry about what everyone else thinks keep living and speaking your truth

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_00]: The only people that will get mad at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Read the art of nonconformity

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Number five life doesn't always change as fast as people do

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: learn to accept that not everyone is who you once knew and

[00:03:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Realize that sometimes it's not the person you miss. It's the feeling you had when you were with them

[00:03:28] [SPEAKER_00]: number six some people are meant to stay in your heart, but not in your life if

[00:03:34] [SPEAKER_00]: You're having a tough time letting go of someone who left you realize that if they wanted to stay they would still be there

[00:03:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you have to forget what's gone appreciate what still remains and look forward to what's coming next

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_00]: It sucks when you know that you need to let go but you can't because you're still hoping for the impossible to happen

[00:03:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it will hurt for a while, but you have to forget about the person who forgot about you and move on

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: number seven

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone has baggage just like you the minute someone decides to walk out of your life

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_00]: That is the same moment in which the opportunity and space opens up for someone who actually deserves your love to finally walk in

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Remember everyone has baggage. So don't be ashamed of yours be patient and find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack

[00:04:22] [SPEAKER_00]: Number eight love doesn't hurt love is not the problem

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Don't blame love if a failed relationship interfered with your other important relationships or robbed you of your self-esteem and personal freedoms

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_00]: No, don't blame love for it wasn't love that stole from you. It was possession. It was obsession

[00:04:40] [SPEAKER_00]: It was manipulation. It was confusion

[00:04:44] [SPEAKER_00]: Love had nothing to do with your situation for love doesn't close the door against all that is good

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: It opens it wide to let more goodness in love creates freedom and abundance

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: Read the five love languages

[00:04:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Number nine forgiveness is always the right choice

[00:05:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Anyone can hold a grudge but it takes a person with strong character to forgive when you forgive you release yourself from a painful

[00:05:11] [SPEAKER_00]: Burden and no forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay, and it doesn't mean that person should still be welcome in your life

[00:05:18] [SPEAKER_00]: It simply means you have made peace with the pain and are ready to let it go and move on with your life

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: number ten love requires three things

[00:05:27] [SPEAKER_00]: acceptance honesty and commitment

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Love comes when you care more about who the other person really is rather than about who you think they should become

[00:05:37] [SPEAKER_00]: It's about daring to reveal yourself honestly and daring to be open and vulnerable over the long term

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_00]: It's about sticking by each other's side through thick and thin and truly being there in the flesh and spirit when you're needed most

[00:05:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Remember, the most romantic love story is not Romeo and Juliet who died young together

[00:05:56] [SPEAKER_00]: It's the story of grandma and grandpa who helped each other through life and grew old together

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: Number eleven a big part of who you become is who you choose to surround yourself with

[00:06:08] [SPEAKER_00]: Fate controls who walks into your life

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_00]: But you decide who you let walk out who you let stay and who you refuse to let go

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don't

[00:06:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Number twelve a soulmate is a person who brings out the best in you

[00:06:25] [SPEAKER_00]: They are far from perfect, but they are a perfect fit for you

[00:06:29] [SPEAKER_00]: Remember every relationship has its problems

[00:06:32] [SPEAKER_00]: But what makes it perfect is when you wouldn't want to be anywhere else even when times are tough

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_00]: You just listen to the post titled 12 relationship truths

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I wish I knew 12 years ago by Mark Shurn off of mark and angel.com

[00:06:50] [SPEAKER_00]: And I'll be back in just a sec with my comments and

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much to mark for allowing us another one of his articles to read the truths

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_00]: He talked about today are they're valuable at any age

[00:07:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Let alone if you're lucky enough to know them as early as 18 as he alluded to

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Keep these truths with you my friends and never stop pursuing them no matter how many times you hear them

[00:07:11] [SPEAKER_00]: That's all I've got for you. And on that note, we're gonna wrap things up for today

[00:07:15] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you enjoyed this one and I hope you'll stop in for our next episode tomorrow where your optimal life awaits