2323: How to Stop Feeling Crazy Jealous In Your Relationship by Irene Elias of Self Love Junkie on How to Build Self Confidence

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[00:00:23] Today, I am narrating a post from Irene Elias on Why jealousy can be such a destructive emotion

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[00:00:38] How to Stop Feeling Crazy Jealous In Your Relationship by Irene Elias of SelfLoveJunkie.com

[00:00:47] You're in a relationship and your partner is everything you want

[00:00:51] But, there's just one teeny, tiny problem. You are so jealous

[00:00:56] To the point that you know yourself sabotaging your relationship, but you just don't know what to do

[00:01:03] The second you and your partner are amongst the crowd and around other women

[00:01:07] You get into a paranoid psychomote and think that he's staring at other girls

[00:01:12] You are so terrified that your boyfriend or husband will be interested in another woman

[00:01:17] But you have zero reason to believe that he would do anything because so far he is shown that he's faithful, trustworthy and loves you

[00:01:24] You've tried to buy your tongue, give yourself pep talks and ignore your feelings

[00:01:29] But nothing seems to help and you end up exploding and freaking out on him over your paranoia

[00:01:36] Know that when you start feeling jealous, you're just really scared. Jealousy comes from fear

[00:01:42] And this fear is like an alarm bell trying to grab your attention because there's something inside of you that needs healing

[00:01:48] So, you need to look more on the inside and discover what is lying dormant

[00:01:54] Usually there are unresolved issues from past relationships that haven't been healed

[00:01:59] Subconscious programming, your perceptions, feelings of not being good enough, a fear of abandonment and loss of love

[00:02:07] All of which create a recipe of low self-esteem and craziness

[00:02:12] Sometimes when I would feel not good enough in my relationship,

[00:02:16] I would know that it was a sign that I had not spent enough time with my spirit

[00:02:19] And that my past experiences were still haunting me and that I still needed healing

[00:02:24] You need to ask yourself why you're feeling jealous

[00:02:28] If my partner was a big fuller, wanted to cheat and didn't respect me or other women

[00:02:34] Then why would I want to be with someone who behaves in this manner?

[00:02:38] No thanks, moving on. If your partner is giving you a good reason to be jealous and not respecting you, why are you with them?

[00:02:45] You deserve respect, but you must embody that.

[00:02:49] Some women who don't truly love themselves get involved with men who hurt them because they believe that's all they deserve

[00:02:55] If you know deep within your heart that your jealousy stems from your insecurities, then you need to spend more time with your spirit

[00:03:02] And one way to do this is to journal your thoughts around the why

[00:03:06] If someone is going to cheat or whatever, they're going to do it regardless and there is nothing you can do or say about it

[00:03:13] Better to find out now than later and move on with someone who treats you better

[00:03:17] So beautiful, stop wasting your energy on being jealous

[00:03:21] It's a turn off for men and they're not going to want to hang around you often

[00:03:25] The right guy is attracted to a woman who is confident in her skin and confident in her relationship

[00:03:31] It's no fun if you're constantly on his back about other women

[00:03:34] It's a major downer and messes with his brother

[00:03:37] Yes, I just said that

[00:03:39] Relationships truly are our best assignments and they do need nurturing

[00:03:43] Your partner is there to shine the light on the parts of you that need healing

[00:03:48] And if you've always been insecure about the way you look, you'll most likely attract a partner who will push your insecurities

[00:03:55] Instead of being mad at yourself, it's time to be proactive

[00:03:58] Be grateful that this emotion has come up because it's an opportunity for you to learn, heal, grow

[00:04:04] And become even closer to yourself and strengthen the bond with your partner

[00:04:09] Use this opportunity to dig deep and figure out the reasons why he loves you

[00:04:15] Look at all those reasons and know that he has chosen you for those reasons

[00:04:20] If he didn't dig you he wouldn't want to be with you

[00:04:23] Get busy with your life and you'll have no energy on what he's doing or not doing in the relationship

[00:04:29] Continue with the pep talks

[00:04:32] Eventually those pep talks will seep into your subconscious mind

[00:04:35] And you will start believing that you are his queen

[00:04:38] Whenever you have those crazy thoughts of your partner cheating or feelings of not being good enough when he looks at other women

[00:04:45] Tell yourself, he may have glanced her way

[00:04:48] She's pretty and I also appreciate beauty, but I know who I am

[00:04:52] I love who I am and I know he genuinely loves me

[00:04:56] Remind yourself that you are in a state of fear and you need to return to love

[00:05:02] You can say something like this to yourself

[00:05:05] Oh, there goes my ego again feeding me false messages

[00:05:08] I am love, I am spirit

[00:05:11] And therefore I am beautiful and good enough exactly as I am

[00:05:15] God loves me, I love me

[00:05:17] And my partner loves me

[00:05:19] You may have to say this a hundred times per day

[00:05:23] And ladies, even good men will look

[00:05:26] He could have Halle Berry by his side and he will still look at other women

[00:05:30] It doesn't mean they are going to do something to hurt you or don't love you

[00:05:34] They're just men, it's in their DNA to look

[00:05:36] What I've realized is that the more I focus on being my best self

[00:05:41] Making myself happy, connecting with my light and creating an amazing life

[00:05:46] The more my partner wants to be by my side and gaze into my eyes

[00:05:50] If you want an amazing partner, you have to be that amazing person

[00:05:55] Know that he does not determine yourself worth

[00:05:58] Make self love a part of your lifestyle to banish fear from your relationship

[00:06:03] And add self awareness into the way you react toward your partner

[00:06:06] Keep focusing on building yourself worth

[00:06:09] Independent of making him desire you more

[00:06:12] And he'll keep choosing you

[00:06:14] Love, Irene

[00:06:19] You just listen to the post titled How to Stop Feeling Crazy jealous in your relationship

[00:06:24] By Irene, Elias of selflovejunky.com

[00:06:30] And a big thanks to Irene

[00:06:32] I'm really good reminder that any negative feeling we're experiencing

[00:06:35] Really whether it be triggered by another part of your not

[00:06:38] Is a reflection of our our relationship with the topic in question

[00:06:42] Now it doesn't mean we're always to blame or should always accept the source

[00:06:47] Of what's causing these negative feelings

[00:06:49] But it does mean that it's always a good first step to look into ourselves

[00:06:54] And try to grasp where these feelings are coming from and what part we play

[00:06:58] And at the end of all this analysis, another friendly reminder that these feelings

[00:07:02] Can always be discussed with someone and should be

[00:07:05] Especially in our strongest relationships where communication is so key

[00:07:10] Now let's go ahead and wrap things up

[00:07:12] Thank you so much for listening everyone

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