2332: Marrying Kind of Men: Seven Key Signs AND Does He Have Soulmate Potential? by Dr. Diana Kirschner on Marriage

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[00:00:18] This is Optimal Relationships Daily, Marion Kind of Men, Seven Key Signs AND Does He Have Soulmate Potential,

[00:00:26] both by Dr. Diana Kirschner of LoveIn90days.com.

[00:00:32] Hello everybody and happy middle of the week!

[00:00:34] I am Greg Audino and welcome to the show.

[00:00:37] Now, while nothing will be 100% predictable in relationships and pathotruth,

[00:00:42] there are certain general traits you can look out for if you're seeking a potential marriage partner.

[00:00:47] You'll learn practical tips for what to observe from the two short posts today.

[00:00:51] So let's learn more from Dr. Diana Kirschner and start optimizing your life.

[00:01:00] Marion Kind of Men, Seven Key Signs by Dr. Diana Kirschner of LoveIn90days.com.

[00:01:09] This is another research article that answers the question of who are the Marion Kind of Men.

[00:01:14] If you want to know if your guy is marriage material, check out my newly revised book, LoveIn90days.

[00:01:20] Who really are the Marion Kind of Men? Who is marriage material?

[00:01:25] Some women think they don't exist anymore, like an extinct species of mammal.

[00:01:30] And here's yet another email on this topic.

[00:01:33] Dear Dr. Diana, I've done it again.

[00:01:35] Fell for the wrong guy.

[00:01:37] He had no interest in a serious relationship or making commitment.

[00:01:41] Obviously I miss the signs.

[00:01:43] So could you tell me please what are the signs of the Marion Kind of Men?

[00:01:47] Please tell me what to look for.

[00:01:49] Susan Inoma Ha.

[00:01:51] Susan I have a good news for you and for the many others who asked the question

[00:01:54] who are the Marion Kind of Men.

[00:01:56] Over the past few years, researchers have looked closely at the types of men who are more likely

[00:02:01] to be interested in a long-term relationship or marriage, and those who are likely to be

[00:02:06] commitment phobic or players.

[00:02:08] The telltale signs based on research that can guide you towards the Marion Kind of Men.

[00:02:13] Rutgers University in the National Marriage Project conducted a national study

[00:02:17] that showed that married men were more likely than single men to have grown up with both

[00:02:22] biological parents.

[00:02:23] Almost half of the married men reported going to religious services several times a month,

[00:02:29] while less than one quarter of the unmarried men did.

[00:02:32] When the researchers sort it out the Marion Kind of Men,

[00:02:35] they found a similar difference.

[00:02:37] Those who came from traditional backgrounds and intact families,

[00:02:41] and those who attended religious services regularly each month,

[00:02:45] were more likely to agree with you'd be ready to marry tomorrow if the right person came along.

[00:02:50] Also a Gallup poll showed that the vast majority of these Marion Kind of Men

[00:02:55] are seeking a soulmate who will fulfill their emotional,

[00:02:58] dual and spiritual desires.

[00:03:00] They also wanted someone who is willing to share bread-winning responsibilities.

[00:03:05] Seven significant differences between the Marion Kind of Men and the non-marrying kind.

[00:03:11] Men who are not marriage material were more likely to

[00:03:14] distrust women to tell the truth about prior relationships.

[00:03:18] Worry more about the risks of divorce.

[00:03:21] Say they did not want children.

[00:03:24] Believe that singles have better supplies than marries.

[00:03:27] Agre too, there are so many bad marriages today it makes one question the value of marriage.

[00:03:33] Say that at this stage of life they just wanted to have fun.

[00:03:37] Express the concern that if you marry your biggest concern would be losing your personal freedom.

[00:03:43] Ladies, there are some important clues here.

[00:03:45] Obviously there are wonderful available guys who don't fit the complete profile of the Marion Kind of Men.

[00:03:51] Nevertheless, the research is convincing that good parental role models and a spiritual or religious

[00:03:56] background help in molding guys who want commitment. If marriage or lasting love relationship as your goal,

[00:04:03] you may want to watch early on for info and clues about a guy's upbringing.

[00:04:07] Look for eagerness for marriage and practicing spiritual or religious activities.

[00:04:11] Single dads can often be great prospective partners.

[00:04:15] On the other hand, definitely watch out for a guy's general distrust of women and fears about

[00:04:19] losing personal freedom. Don't waste your time on men who are not marriage material.

[00:04:24] They will only break your heart. Be discerning and looking for the men that are marriage material.

[00:04:33] Does he have soulmate potential? Also by Dr. Diana Kirchner of LoveIn90days.com.

[00:04:40] There are some very important and surprising questions to ask yourself to find out

[00:04:45] does he have soulmate potential? As I covered before, the first question to ask yourself is

[00:04:51] is he crazy about me? The second key question you must ask yourself is,

[00:04:56] is he willing to grow? Why does this question matter so much? Well there are no perfect guys.

[00:05:02] You want to make sure you're with someone who is open to self-improvement and working on

[00:05:05] self as a person. Single dads often fit the bill here. If he's crazy about you and if he

[00:05:11] respects you and your own growth process, he will want to evolve along a similar path as yours.

[00:05:16] I've designed this particular quiz to help you assess the very important question

[00:05:20] is he willing to grow? Give your partner one point for each of these 11 characteristics.

[00:05:27] Takes suggestions slash advice. Is self-reflective?

[00:05:31] Can tell you what he, not his partner, did wrong in his last relationship?

[00:05:36] Is willing to go to therapy or life coaching? Has a mentor at work?

[00:05:42] Takes growth courses. Meditates slash praise. Was or is an 12-step program or men's group?

[00:05:50] Has made positive changes in his behavior or his ability to speak his truth?

[00:05:55] Is growing in self-esteem and self-confidence? Has grown or reinvented himself in his career?

[00:06:02] Does he have soulmate potential? Is he willing to grow?

[00:06:06] A score of six or more indicates that your guy is an open and evolving person. He has the

[00:06:12] potential to become a wonderful life partner who continuously reinvent himself. A man who reinvent

[00:06:17] himself is a guy who understands that new vistas in work, career or helping others will also

[00:06:23] fill your lives with passion. On a personal note, this growth quality in my husband's

[00:06:28] Sam is what keeps me crazy about him after decades of marriage. He has reinvented himself

[00:06:32] several times over and I never quite know what to expect. He has worked as a clinical

[00:06:37] psychologist, run a postgraduate training institute for marriage and family therapists,

[00:06:42] served as a management consultant to large family owned businesses, co-authored books for

[00:06:47] therapists and investors, and in his spare time acted as my business manager.

[00:06:51] Actually, I feel like I'm having an affair with an old and new lover a lot of the time.

[00:06:55] Bottom line, there are no perfect princes but a frog prince who is evolving could make a great and

[00:07:01] wonderful partner. Make sure to read the final installment in this soulmate series.

[00:07:06] It asks you to rate your partner soulmate potential on the third dimension. Does he meet the basics?

[00:07:16] You just listen to the posts titled, Marien kind of men, seven key signs and does he have soulmate

[00:07:22] potential, both by Dr. Diana Kirchner of love in 90 days dot com. More great content from Dr.

[00:07:30] Diana today and we thank her for that as always. You know I really like the scoring system.

[00:07:36] Is it risky to see people only through these boxes they check off? Of course,

[00:07:41] but if we can understand that these are just guidelines, having a score system or something

[00:07:46] like that is objective and it's measurable and that can be a really great way to avoid over

[00:07:51] thinking or demanding too much. It's great to bring objectivity to these difficult subjective

[00:07:56] feelings and assessments, so thanks again to Dr. Diana for providing a little roadmap in that

[00:08:02] regard. That'll do it for today though my friends. Thanks so much for tuning in and I will see you

[00:08:08] tomorrow with a post for parents where you're optimal life awaits.