2377: Empowering Our Children to Speak Up by Allison Carmen on Teaching Your Kids to Stand Up For Their Beliefs

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[00:00:57] Das ist Optimal Relationships Daily. Empowering Our Children to Speak Up. By Alison Karman of alisonkarman.com.

[00:01:07] When my daughter was 11 years old, she came home and told me about an exam that she had taken at school.

[00:01:13] She believed that she got an answer on her test right, but the teacher had marked it wrong.

[00:01:18] It was a multiple-choice question, and my daughter believed that there were two possible answers.

[00:01:23] She asked me if she could go to the teacher to discuss the question.

[00:01:27] I responded, of course, just ask the teacher if it is okay to discuss the test with her.

[00:01:32] My daughter spoke to her teacher the next day.

[00:01:35] According to my daughter, she approached the teacher and asked her if they could talk about the test.

[00:01:39] The teacher replied yes.

[00:01:41] My daughter then began to discuss why she believed both answers A and B were possible,

[00:01:47] based on what the teacher taught them in class.

[00:01:49] She also took out her notes to show the teacher.

[00:01:52] The teacher gave her the point and then said,

[00:01:55] You know, a teacher might not like to be challenged like this,

[00:01:59] and you need to be very careful what you say.

[00:02:01] Who put you up to this?

[00:02:03] Who's the lawyer in the family?

[00:02:05] My daughter's heart started to race, and she responded,

[00:02:08] My mother is an attorney, and I want to be one as well.

[00:02:11] The exchange ended, and my daughter came home crying.

[00:02:15] She said,

[00:02:16] Mom, I am never going to ask a teacher a question again, even if I think they're wrong.

[00:02:22] It just takes one moment and one experience to make children feel like they can't stand up for what they believe in,

[00:02:28] and this was one of those moments.

[00:02:30] I quickly said to my daughter,

[00:02:32] You did nothing wrong.

[00:02:33] You asked if you could discuss the test.

[00:02:36] I think your teacher did not like to be challenged, but part of learning is questioning.

[00:02:40] You have a right to express your opinion at all times, as long as you are respectful about it.

[00:02:45] It is a great lesson of how people may react when they don't like what you are saying,

[00:02:50] but don't let that stop you.

[00:02:52] I am very proud of you for standing up and getting the point.

[00:02:56] My daughter said,

[00:02:57] You are?

[00:02:58] I responded,

[00:03:00] Yes, this is how you change the world.

[00:03:02] By having the courage to speak up, whether other people like it or not.

[00:03:07] We had to have the same conversation for quite a few days before my daughter got it.

[00:03:11] I truly believe it was a pivotal moment in her life.

[00:03:15] I was lucky that my daughter shared this story with me,

[00:03:18] but there are so many moments as parents that we do not get to hear about when our children feel disempowered

[00:03:24] or confused about how to confront a situation.

[00:03:27] Our children may be unaware of how a particular situation is affecting them,

[00:03:32] and other times they may choose not to share things with us.

[00:03:35] Therefore, it is important for us to constantly try to encourage them in various ways.

[00:03:42] Here are a few suggestions that may help your child to find their voice.

[00:03:46] 1. When your child is experiencing a conflict at school or at home,

[00:03:51] invite them to propose some ways of dealing with the situation.

[00:03:55] Try to find a solution together,

[00:03:57] and encourage your child to find their voice while seeking resolution.

[00:04:02] 2. Try to let your child make more decisions about some matters that concern them.

[00:04:07] Maybe include them in the decision of where you are going for dinner,

[00:04:11] or let them help plan a family vacation.

[00:04:13] 3. Engage in current event discussions at meals or during some free time,

[00:04:19] instead of watching television or the computer.

[00:04:21] Ask them their opinion about conflicts around the world and how they would resolve them.

[00:04:26] Give them examples of change that happened when people stood up for their rights.

[00:04:30] And

[00:04:30] 4. Pick a few social issues that are important to the family,

[00:04:35] whether volunteering for a charity,

[00:04:37] advocating for new legislation,

[00:04:38] or participating in community activities.

[00:04:42] Show them, through your own actions,

[00:04:44] that their voice matters,

[00:04:45] and change is possible.

[00:04:47] Teaching our children to find their voices

[00:04:49] might not be the easiest path for us as parents,

[00:04:52] but it is an investment in our children's

[00:04:55] and the world's future.

[00:04:57] I dedicate this post to Malala Yousafzai,

[00:05:00] the heroic 14-year-old Pakistani girl

[00:05:02] that was shot in the head by a Taliban gunman

[00:05:04] for speaking up for girls' right to education.

[00:05:07] With all my heart,

[00:05:09] I hope Courageous Malala recovers

[00:05:11] and continues to be a hero that inspires us all to speak up

[00:05:14] and make the world a better place.

[00:05:20] You just listened to the post titled

[00:05:23] Empowering Our Children to Speak Up

[00:05:25] by Alison Carman of AlisonCarman.com

[00:05:29] Okay, really good stuff from Alison there.

[00:05:32] It might be tough to put these pieces together,

[00:05:35] but what she is essentially talking about,

[00:05:37] to me,

[00:05:38] is a form of mini-trauma

[00:05:40] that we all endure as children.

[00:05:42] Now, had her daughter

[00:05:43] not come up to her

[00:05:45] and been as communicative with her mother,

[00:05:47] and had she not been as well-received by her mother,

[00:05:50] it would have been very, very easy

[00:05:52] for her daughter to develop a complex

[00:05:54] around confronting people,

[00:05:55] particularly superiors or those in authority.

[00:05:59] These are the mini-traumas

[00:06:01] that shape us a lot without us knowing,

[00:06:03] the traumas that we don't necessarily go to therapy for.

[00:06:06] And though they aren't as easy to identify down the road

[00:06:10] as things that were more severe,

[00:06:12] they can impact us just as long,

[00:06:14] and in some cases, just as seriously.

[00:06:17] Great parenting and great advice by Alison today.

[00:06:20] I really enjoyed this.

[00:06:21] And on that note,

[00:06:22] I thank you all for joining me

[00:06:24] and listening to this enlightening post.

[00:06:26] I will look forward to seeing you all tomorrow

[00:06:28] where your optimal life awaits.