3125: 10 Questions Happy Couples Are Constantly Asking One Another by Anita Chlipala with Gottman on Lasting Love
Optimal Relationships DailyAugust 31, 2026
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3125: 10 Questions Happy Couples Are Constantly Asking One Another by Anita Chlipala with Gottman on Lasting Love

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Episode 3125:

Anita Chlipala explains how couples drift from loving talk into logistical talk without noticing, and offers ten open-ended questions that reopen the conversation, covering childhood memories, unmet needs, private worries, unfulfilled dreams, and physical intimacy. She notes that the couples who stay connected are simply deliberate about it, setting aside twenty distraction-free minutes and letting themselves be vulnerable rather than staging grand gestures. It is small, repeatable relationship advice for keeping a marriage close over the long run.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-questions-happy-couples-constantly-asking-one-another/

Quotes to ponder:

"Too many couples become emotionally disconnected and they never saw it coming."

"Let yourself be vulnerable. It's a pathway to intimacy and it helps you build and maintain trust."

"Intimacy suffers when people stay focused on the things that aren't going well or take the good things for granted."

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