3150: [Part 2] 10 Things to Know About Being in a Relationship With an HSP by Lisa Petsinis of Highly Sensitive Refuge on Lasting Love

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[00:00:52] This is Optimal Relationships Daily. 10 Things You Should Know About Being in a Relationship with an HSP. Part 2. By Lisa Petsinis of HighlySensitiveRefuge.com. 5. HSPs Are Sensitive To, and Responsive To, Touch Clothing Tags and Itchy Fabrics May Drive Them Mad.

[00:01:18] For Valentine's Day, think suede and silk. HSPs want nothing but soft fabrics, and you next to their skin. Their beds can't be too hard or too soft. Just like the princess and the pea, they want what they want, and they know when it's right. After all, they picked you, didn't they? What's critical for HSPs is to find the optimal level of stimulation and responsiveness. My best advice? Slow things down and savor every moment of physical connection.

[00:01:47] 6. HSPs Experience Physical Pain Intensely In the same way that highly sensitive people feel touch, they feel pain. It's magnified. If your partner is in pain, please understand that they're not faking it or trying to get your attention. So, the next time they bang their head or gash themselves by accident, remember that to them, it feels like that time you broke your arm. Darn, that hurt.

[00:02:13] So, show your highly sensitive person some mercy and compassion, rather than scorn and dismissiveness in times of need. 7. HSPs Notice the Subtleties Others Miss Call them picky, but HSPs may even see more than most people. Whether it's a typo in your resume, a missing button, or spinach in your teeth, they're going to notice, just like they pay attention to the way you bite your lip when you're nervous or smile a certain way when you're amused.

[00:02:41] 7. HSPs And by being aware of these subtleties, they will help you to bring your best self to the world. 8. HSPs Highly sensitive people are constantly processing thoughts and information and integrating them into their consciousness. 8. HSPs It's that depth of processing and innate curiosity that can help them solve complex problems, including relationship ones, in an incredibly creative way. 8. Besides the precise vision and intricate organization of stimuli, they pick up on vibrations in their environments, just like an antenna.

[00:03:12] This is why you felt your highly sensitive partner understood you from the moment you two first met. They pay attention to the little things about you and love those quirks too. 8. HSPs Get Easily Overwhelmed Their senses are working furiously, and it's normal to need a break from all that stimulation. A day of work and an open office, fighting traffic, and all the sights and sounds can take their toll on HSPs.

[00:03:38] That's why they practically need to be religious about self-care. If they don't take care of themselves, they can easily crash and burn out. Mindfulness is particularly useful for highly sensitive people, so that they can connect with their bodies in a calm, accepting way, which leads to connecting with you with ease and joy as well. So, if you want your HSP to be at his or her best, encourage them to take time and space to decompress,

[00:04:04] especially if they're introverted too, because they need longer periods of being with their thoughts than others might require. 9. HSPs Get Their Feelings Hurt Easily Their depth of processing is not limited to the physical senses. Highly sensitive people have grown up hearing comments like, Don't be so sensitive. Don't take things so personally. And toughen up. When they hear these things as adults, especially from their partners, it's likely to send them into a tailspin.

[00:04:33] They start to worry that you'll think they're too much, or worse, that you'll move on from them. You can help counteract this by building their self-confidence. Acknowledge their reality and emotions without judgment. Start to become more aware of how you communicate with them, and of the possible impact this communication has. Doing so can save you both from some seriously unnecessary grief and drama. 10. Lastly, HSPs Love Passionately

[00:05:02] They care intensely about the people they love. They crave trust, depth, meaning, and authenticity in those relationships. Highly sensitive people know that their emotions can overwhelm you at times. That said, they absorb your energy. So, ground your HSP partner by making them laugh, or by taking a gentle walk together in nature. Finally, know that they don't take anything lightly, including commitment.

[00:05:29] So, when they've found their true love, they are not likely to stray. And since you're for keeps, you must know that you can't really change your highly sensitive lover. Quite simply, his or her brain is wired differently. However, as HSPs become more aware of their sensitivities, they can learn to adapt and grow with you. So, if you recognize yourself in this description, give yourself some compassion.

[00:05:54] The heightened beauty you see, hear, touch, sense, and feel brings a richness to your relationships. Even more than this, your unparalleled ability to notice, solve problems, and heal pain makes this world a much better place. If you're lucky enough to love an HSP, embrace them and their needs fully, and reap the benefits too. Love your partner right and help them to optimize their gift of sensitivity,

[00:06:20] and you can expect a lifetime of loyalty, connection, passion, wonder, and joy. You just listened to part two of the post titled, 10 Things You Should Know About Being in a Relationship with an HSP, by Lisa Petsinis of HighlySensitiveRefuge.com. Best thing that's ever happened to you financially. Go. Easy. Sold my car on Carvana. Amazing offer.

[00:06:49] Really? I hit 200 on the scratcher. Did the scratcher come to your house and hand you a check? No. How many scratchers did you hit to get that? I hit a button on Carvana.com once. Okay, that's fair. It's like the lottery, except you always win. Not like the lottery at all, actually. Exactly. Inexplicably good. Offers worth bragging about. Sell your car today on Carvana. Pickup fees may apply. Good sleep is everything.

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[00:07:40] Thanks a lot to Lisa for this great post and for informing all of us on what to expect should we be in a relationship with an HSP. What I love that Lisa did in this post, though, was, in addition to educating us, she offered pointers as to how we could be really involved in the lives of our HSP partners and how we could work with these tendencies to bring out the best in them. The note about self-care was really important.

[00:08:06] Look between the cracks and guide your HSP partner if they aren't taking care of themselves or making time to be alone. Aid them in that. Hold them accountable, not just by reminding them of the value in it, but by doing so with them. Engage in self-care routines with them. When they get their feelings hurt, share something that hurts your feelings after having listened to them. Find these ways to relate and really bind your journey together.

[00:08:34] This is the kind of attentiveness that everyone, not just HSPs, would want in a partner and really make a big difference. And on that note, everyone, it's time to wrap up for the day and end this episode. I appreciate you sticking around for both parts of this article, and I hope you'll be back with me tomorrow here on ORD as we continue our journey to better relationships in every sense of the word. That's where your optimal life awaits. Thank you.