3167: [Part 2] 9 Things All Healthy Couples Do by Angel Chernoff of Marc and Angel on Conflict Repair

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[00:00:26] This is Optimal Relationships Daily, 9 Things All Healthy Couples Do, Part 2 by Angel Chernoff of markandangel.com 5. They Don't Let Outsiders Call the Shots in Their Relationship Connected, fulfilled, and harmonious couples base their lifestyle, their decisions, and their goals on what they mutually want as a couple, not what they think looks good to others.

[00:00:53] They do their best not to conform to the outside pressures of living a certain way, making a certain amount of money, owning certain things, etc. The life they create together is for their enjoyment and happiness. They work hard to let their shared inner compass as a couple, not the pressures of outside forces or opinions, lead their shared journey.

[00:01:15] The bottom line is that not everyone will agree with how you and your partner run your relationship, but that is perfectly okay, because it will be just right for the two of you. 6. They Make Being Happy A Priority Over Being Right What would happen if, in your next moment of frustration with your partner, you focused on being happy together instead of being right as an individual? 7. Blaming each other only delays discovering the solution that will move your relationship forward.

[00:01:45] Focusing on who's more right is a time waster, and healthy couples know it. Instead of blaming each other for having a difference of opinion, they quickly turn to brainstorming about how they can come to a compromise together. Keep in mind that the biggest roadblocks to abundant health and happiness in our relationships are often not outside sources, but attachment to our own egos. It's time to let go and grow together as one. 7. They Don't Play Games

[00:02:14] They're Smart Enough to Know No One Wins Reading between the lines and guessing games don't appeal to healthy couples. They don't create drama where there is none, and they don't assign motives that aren't there. They take their partner at their word, and they assume he or she is always coming from a good place. If there is confusion, they don't draw their own conclusions. They ask questions to clarify.

[00:02:39] Mature and loving couples know that there are enough real problems in the world without creating bogus ones. Communication is king. 8. They Behave As If Their Partner Is Always Beside Them Secrets and lies will slowly drain a relationship of trust and love. If you wouldn't want your partner to know what you're doing, should you really be doing it? The next time you're about to make a decision, ask yourself if you would make the same choice if your partner were present.

[00:03:07] If not, you shouldn't be doing it. Healthy couples who have been together for years know that it's better to have a difficult conversation about negative spending, eating, or other personal habits than it is to lie or try to cover things up. A strong relationship can work through problems, but only if both parties know about them. And number nine, they are patient, respectful, and forgiving of each other's humanness.

[00:03:33] This one comes right out of the relationships chapter of Marc and Angel's book, One Thousand Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently. Quote,

[00:04:13] Truth be told, even the healthiest couples on earth are still just two imperfect humans. At times, the confident lose confidence. The patient misplace their patience. The generous act selfish. And the knowledgeable second guess what they know. It happens to the best of us. We make mistakes, we lose our tempers, and we get caught off guard. We stumble, we slip, and we spin out of control sometimes.

[00:04:42] But that's the worst of it. We all have our moments. Most of the time, we're remarkable. So stand beside the one you love through their trying times of imperfection. If you aren't willing to, you really don't deserve to be around for their perfect moments either. End quote. Closing Thoughts By compiling this short list of nine, I'm not suggesting that these are the only keys to creating a healthy relationship.

[00:05:08] I'm simply shedding light on some common relationship habits that can make all the difference in the end. Again, healthy couples do not happen by chance. They are created through conscious and consistent effort. And the best part is, a happier, healthier relationship can start with just one partner. You. If you are committed to having the best partnership possible, choose just one or two of the habits from this list and implement them today.

[00:05:36] Set a great example and see how it affects your relationship over the next several days. You just listened to part two of the post titled Nine Things All Healthy Couples Do by Angel Chernoff of markandangel.com Lust auf einfach guten Kaffee, wann immer du willst? Bekommst du mit den Cubo-Kapselmaschinen von Chibo. Denn das ist Kaffee in seiner besten Form.

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[00:07:00] They don't let outsiders call the shots in their relationship. Ich denke, dass das eine besonders wichtig ist für ein healthy relationship oder ein healthy partnership. Es unterschätzt die importance von couples zu machen, decisions based on their mutual desires, rather than external pressures or societal norms. And I'm sure we're all familiar with how much we can let the perspectives of others intrude on our decision making, be it consciously or subconsciously. But this approach is beneficial as it fosters unity and understanding between partners,

[00:07:30] which strengthens their bond against those external influences. So, in essence, by keeping control of their relationship choices, couples can ensure that their journey together reflects their shared values and desires. And this not only strengthens their connection, but it also enhances their overall happiness and fulfillment, making their partnership more robust, I guess, and satisfying. I would say it's also great for building trust as well. You know, we constantly show our partners that we

[00:08:00] trust them enough to make decisions alongside them and only them. That instills a strong sense of partnership and accountability. And couples that remain more responsible for their own choices, those are couples that can really grow together. But with that, we have reached the end for today, everyone. Thank you so much for tuning in, not just to this episode, but also yesterday's part one. I hope this article has gotten you thinking about how to strengthen your bond with your partner. I know it has for me.

[00:08:26] So have a great rest of your day and be sure to tune in again tomorrow for more ORD. That's where your optimal life awaits.