3207: [Part 2] Reclaiming Our Stories From Trauma by Jenny TeGrotenhuis with Gottman Institute on Emotional Attunement

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Episode 3207:

Jenny TeGrotenhuis continues her look at how past trauma shows up in a relationship, following a couple whose perfectionism and constant "shoulds" had quietly pulled them apart. She explains how defensive patterns that once kept someone safe now block real connection, and how attunement, mindful soothing and honest talk about feelings help rewrite the old script. It is a hopeful reminder that the relationships where we were wounded can also be where we heal.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/reclaiming-our-stories-from-trauma/

Quotes to ponder:

"Recognition of real feelings is the goal, and this is often a huge and difficult shift for trauma survivors."

"Accepting what's real, rather than performing roles from old scripts, leads to the joy of living together in the here and now."

"It's usually in relationships that we were wounded, and it will be through relationships that we will heal."

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