1292: Why Worrying About Work-Life Balance is Not A Good Sign by Carl Pullein on Driven by Passion & Commitment

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[00:00:50] This is Optimal Work Daily episode 1292. Why worrying about work-life balance is not a good

[00:00:59] sign by Carl Palin of CarlPalin.com and hey there I am Dan and I am with you every single day

[00:01:06] of the week and that includes weekends like today as well as holidays and what we do here

[00:01:11] is I read to you from these great blogs that we find and get the author's permission to

[00:01:15] share and they're all about work and entrepreneurship and all sorts of related topics like work-life

[00:01:21] balance which is what Carl's talking about today. So let's get right to it and start

[00:01:25] optimizing your life. Why worrying about work-life balance is not a good sign by Carl

[00:01:35] Palin of CarlPalin.com. I see so many articles these days talking about creating the perfect

[00:01:42] work-life balance that somehow the goal is to have eight hours sleep, eight hours work

[00:01:47] and eight hours leisure time every 24 hours. In many ways this does seem ideal yet in reality

[00:01:54] it's a very bad sign. It implies that the work you do is not something you enjoy or

[00:01:58] love but is something you do to live. That you work 40 hours a week so you can enjoy

[00:02:04] yourself on a weekend where what you actually do is spend most of that time sitting in

[00:02:08] front of the TV or a laying in bed complaining how tired you are. What is really happening

[00:02:13] is out of a seven-day week you spend five of those days doing something you hate so you

[00:02:18] can enjoy two days where you are not working yet you complain about being so exhausted

[00:02:23] all you do during those two days is sit around doing nothing but complain. If you

[00:02:27] worry about work-life balance you're not going to achieve the same levels of success

[00:02:31] as people like Tony Robbins, Elon Musk, Gary Vaynerchuk or Sheryl Sandberg. Very

[00:02:37] successful people focus on what they want and the process not the hours they work or

[00:02:42] about how tired they are. If you look at the lives of the super successful you see a

[00:02:47] completely different pattern emerge you see people who can't wait to jump out

[00:02:50] of bed in the morning you see people who may not be in the office at weekends

[00:02:54] but are reading learning and planning so they can do their work better and

[00:02:59] perform at a much higher level. Their goal is excellence and they have a

[00:03:03] purpose. I am certainly not suggesting that everyone should forget about

[00:03:07] trying to have free time or some quality time with their families and loved ones

[00:03:10] but if you want to build a multi-billion dollar business then worrying about your

[00:03:15] work-life balance is going to stop you from achieving that dream. The funny

[00:03:19] thing is the people who are working to improve their lives that read study

[00:03:23] and plan on weekends are the happiest people around. Those that go around

[00:03:27] trying to create a quote-unquote perfect work-life balance are often

[00:03:31] miserable, exhausted and stressed. Why is that? It really comes down to purpose

[00:03:37] when you have a clear idea of what you enjoy doing when your work is

[00:03:41] something you love doing there is no dividing line between work and pleasure

[00:03:45] everything you do is a pleasure then the challenge becomes fighting time to

[00:03:49] spend with your family and friends and although that can be a very difficult

[00:03:52] challenge to overcome it is a better place to be than laying around all

[00:03:56] weekend complaining about how tired you are and then suffering from the

[00:04:00] Sunday night blues you might be spending time with your family and

[00:04:03] friends but is sitting around on a sofa with your eyes glued to a screen

[00:04:07] spending quality time with your family and friends I don't think so this

[00:04:11] year I've spent a lot of time studying highly successful people trying to find

[00:04:15] if there was anything these people had in common there are a lot of both

[00:04:19] commonalities and differences but one thing I did find they all had in

[00:04:23] common was the passion and commitment they had for their work right

[00:04:26] back to the time of Leonardo da Vinci all highly successful people lived

[00:04:31] and breathe their work when they got tired they slept when they were awake

[00:04:35] it was all about work that was true then and it's true now we read articles

[00:04:40] about the number of hours Elon Musk spends working how many hours people

[00:04:44] like Tim Cook Sadiana Della Marissa Meyer and Cheryl Sandberg spend

[00:04:49] working they all work 10 to 15 hours a day and on weekends too

[00:04:53] none of them complains about not having a work life balance work is their

[00:04:57] life that is the balance what I have found interesting is those people stuck

[00:05:02] at the bottom or in the middle not moving up the promotion ladder moving

[00:05:05] from one job to another and not being able to find happiness are the

[00:05:09] loudest proponents of a work life balance it is as if their

[00:05:12] life's work is to complain about how hard their work is how tired

[00:05:16] and stressed they are and how unhappy they are in their work instead

[00:05:20] of harnessing that energy finding a vocation they really enjoy and

[00:05:23] love doing they seem to prefer complaining about it of course it

[00:05:27] is their right to complain about how hard their work is but I do

[00:05:30] feel their energies would be better served finding something they

[00:05:33] truly love doing and finding happiness rather than complaining

[00:05:37] the secret to a happy and fulfilled life is not really a secret

[00:05:40] it is as Steve Jobs said in his famous Stanford University

[00:05:44] commencement address in 2005 finding what you love

[00:05:47] doing is hard and this is probably the reason why so many people

[00:05:51] give up and just settle for a job they hate going to and returning

[00:05:55] home after an eight or nine hour day to complain about how much of

[00:05:58] a bad day they had surely it would be a far better use of

[00:06:01] your energies to find something you really enjoy doing

[00:06:04] instead of complaining about the work that you hate doing

[00:06:07] take some time every evening and at weekends to play

[00:06:10] to read to learn and to continue searching for a vocation

[00:06:15] that pours energy into your life that has you jumping out of bed on a Monday

[00:06:18] morning with excitement not dread and that has you using your

[00:06:22] weekends to learn to grow and to become a better you it's hard but

[00:06:27] it is not impossible the effort finding that place will be worth it

[00:06:31] you will be able to say goodbye to complaining to negativity

[00:06:34] and to feeling tired and stressed instead you will have huge

[00:06:38] amounts of energy positivity and excitement for each day

[00:06:42] now go find what you love

[00:06:48] you just listened to the post titled why worrying about work-life balance

[00:06:52] is not a good sign by Carl Palin of CarlPalin.com

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[00:09:13] and thanks so much to Carl once again for another enlightening post

[00:09:17] Carl is a renowned productivity and time management coach who has helped

[00:09:21] thousands of people around the world get better at managing their time and

[00:09:24] become more productive using technology they carry around with

[00:09:27] them every day you can check out his podcast which is called the working

[00:09:31] with podcast and Carl has written three books on productivity and time

[00:09:35] management he's also got a couple of courses you

[00:09:37] can check out called time and life mastery and your digital life

[00:09:41] his stated purpose is to help people learn how to manage their time so they

[00:09:45] can enjoy their lives and build a life they are truly proud of

[00:09:48] and he's featured over on optimal living daily as well so please check

[00:09:51] out that show for more content from him

[00:09:53] and be sure to come by carlpilline.com to show him some support

[00:09:57] you can see more about him plus his podcast coaching courses webinars books

[00:10:02] downloads and much more again that's carlpilline

[00:10:06] p u l l e i n dot com and that is going to do it for me today i appreciate

[00:10:12] you being here as always and i'll see you right back here again tomorrow

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