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[00:00:59] This is Optimal Living Daily Episode 31-22 Circle of Invisible Mentors by Joel of 5amjole.com

[00:01:08] and Renearator Justin Malik, the guy that reads blogs or articles to you every single day

[00:01:12] of the year including weekends and holidays. And I'm going to jump right into another

[00:01:17] post as we optimize your life. Circle of Invisible Mentors by Joel of 5amjole.com.

[00:01:30] Have you ever met Richard Branson, the founder and CEO of Virgin? I've met him. Well,

[00:01:35] I feel like I have. Richard is one of my imaginary mentors and we meet up every few weeks in

[00:01:41] my mind. Now before you stop listening and conclude that

[00:01:44] I'm nuts, please give me a few more sentences to explain myself. Actually you can stop

[00:01:50] listening now if you want, full disclosure. I am definitely nuts. If that's okay with

[00:01:54] you, listen on. My cabinet of Invisible Counselors. I got this idea many years ago from the book

[00:02:01] Think and Grow Rich. The author is Napoleon Hill and he explains how mentors can be anyone

[00:02:07] in the world living or dead. You refer to this as a cabinet of Invisible Counselors. Here's

[00:02:13] a quick excerpt from the book.

[00:02:15] Quote, long before I'd ever written a line for publication or endeavour to deliver a speech

[00:02:20] in public, I followed the habit of reshaping my own character by trying to imitate the

[00:02:25] nine men whose lives and life works had been most impressive to me. These nine men were

[00:02:31] Emerson, Payne, Edison, Darwin, Lincoln, Burbank, Napoleon, Ford and Carnegie. Every night

[00:02:41] over a long period of years I held an imaginary council meeting with this group whom I called

[00:02:46] my Invisible Counselors. End quote. Sounds cool, right? Do you want to reshape and grow

[00:02:51] your character? Want to follow the footsteps of the people that impress you the most in

[00:02:56] life? I certainly do. What I look for in a mentor. Everyone has different reasons to seek

[00:03:02] mentorship. I can't speak for others out there, but here's what I need help with sometimes

[00:03:07] in life. Need support making big decisions. Someone to bounce wacky ideas off of. Give

[00:03:14] me inspiration when I need it. Give me a kick in the, that's what I need it. A real estate

[00:03:19] guru, a wealth guru, someone with an ideal marriage that I can learn from. I want mentors

[00:03:24] to hold me accountable and they must push me to be a better person constantly. It's

[00:03:30] tough to find one person who can check every single box on my list so I seek out multiple

[00:03:35] people to advise me. Some mentors I know in real life and some are people I've never met

[00:03:41] before. These strangers will never know it, but they have helped me solve major problems

[00:03:46] and become the person that I am today. My advisors include.

[00:03:51] Joko Willink is a retired Navy SEAL officer. To be honest he scares this thotomy. Just look

[00:03:57] at his photo, he's a beast. Failure is never an option for this guy and he accepts no excuses.

[00:04:03] I can sell with Joko every now and then when I'm hitting multiple walls and feel like

[00:04:07] giving up on something. He kicks my back into shape, Toronto. He motivates me to keep pushing

[00:04:13] no matter how hard it gets and helps me hold myself accountable for every situation.

[00:04:19] Elon Musk runs multiple publicly traded companies as well as trying to figure out how to send

[00:04:24] humans up to live on Mars. He doesn't have much spare time so when I meet with him I

[00:04:29] have to speak quickly, clearly and stay to the point. I meet with Elon at times when

[00:04:35] I've bitten off more than I can chew. He reminds me to compartmentalize my tasks then

[00:04:41] we go through each one in order of priority. I come out of those meetings with a focus

[00:04:45] to do list. My favorite imaginary mentor.

[00:04:50] The weirdest imaginary mentor that I have is my future self at 65 years old. The 65 year

[00:04:55] old Joel is a multi-millionaire, knowledgeable and fun guy. He knows exactly what I'm going

[00:05:01] through currently and everything I will encounter in the future. He is the same person as me

[00:05:07] except with 30 years more experience. 65 year old Joel helps me get through rough patches

[00:05:13] because he's already been through them himself and he survived them just fine. No matter

[00:05:18] what I'm going through, 65 year old Joel tells me everything is going to work out just

[00:05:23] fine. How invisible meetings work. Have you ever approached someone for help after explaining

[00:05:29] the problem out loud? You suddenly realize you already know the solution? The answer was

[00:05:33] right there in front of you. You just needed to talk it out or rephrase the issue. This

[00:05:38] is kind of how an invisible council meeting works. For me, there is no set agenda or

[00:05:44] schedule. I just close my eyes, envision I'm sitting across from my selected mentor and

[00:05:49] jump straight into problem solving. I know it sounds crazy, but it works. How to build

[00:05:55] your own cabinet? Start by creating a list of people you look up to in life. They can

[00:06:00] be real or not. Dead or alive, famous or unknown. Write these names down.

[00:06:07] Next think about why you like them. What advice, knowledge, strategies, personality traits,

[00:06:13] habits, attitude, etc. Do you admire? Be as specific as possible with this step. Finally,

[00:06:20] research and read about these people as much as possible. The more you know about them,

[00:06:25] the better and clearer your mental image will be. You don't have to become a stalker, just

[00:06:30] a mild obsession will do. That's it. Going forward whenever you come across a new problem

[00:06:36] in your life, set up a virtual meeting with one or some of your mentors. Think about

[00:06:41] how they would coach you to solve your issue. You just listen to the post titled Circle

[00:06:51] of Invisible Mentors by Joel of 5amjole.com and I'll be right back with my commentary.

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[00:08:39] Thank you to Joel for this one. This post might sound strange to you, but maybe not.

[00:08:45] One of the most popular articles on our site was written by Greg Odino host of optimal

[00:08:49] relationships daily. He had hosted a Q&A show called Optimal Living Advice. Still

[00:08:55] exists if you want to check it out, but now he does the Q&A episodes on optimal relationships daily.

[00:09:00] Anyway, one of the questions that came in quite a while ago was about adults having imaginary

[00:09:06] friends. Now I try not to be quick to judge about things like this or things in general.

[00:09:12] I like to research or see different sides before jumping to conclusions about something being

[00:09:17] quote unquote weird. Well, that episode which we turned into a blog post on our site, oldpodcast.com

[00:09:24] ended up being one of the most trafficked articles because a lot of people are apparently

[00:09:29] searching for this on Google a lot more than we expected. So I think this article is on to

[00:09:34] something. It sounds like many people like to use a sort of imaginary person or friend or mentor

[00:09:41] in this case to talk about things with. And the more I think about it, the more it sounds like

[00:09:46] journaling to me. Except instead of writing to yourself, you're writing to someone else.

[00:09:51] And I guess yourself at the same time since it's an imaginary person and it's in your head.

[00:09:56] But anyway, I wouldn't dismiss it. I'm sure there's a lot of value there.

[00:10:00] So think about who your mentors might be. Thank you for joining me today and be sure to come

[00:10:05] back for another post tomorrow as we continue along the journey where your optimal life awaits.