3634: My (New) Favourite Tool For Supporting Your Desires by Irene Elias of Self Love Junkie

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[00:00:58] [SPEAKER_00] This is Optimal Living Daily, my new favorite tool for supporting your desires, by Irene Elias of selflovejunkie.com. And I'm Justin Mollick, your host and narrator. And we're going to get right to it as we optimize your life. My new favorite tool for supporting your desires, by Irene Elias of selflovejunkie.com.

[00:01:26] [SPEAKER_00] Lately, I've been in a state of heightened alert with the words that come out of my mouth. I believe it's because currently in this season of my life, there's so much transition. And so I've had to rely on a strong, healthy mindset and high energy levels to accomplish what I need and want to do. It has not been easy. Over time, I've realized the power of our words and the effect they can have on every area of our life, including the total vibe of our day.

[00:01:54] [SPEAKER_00] It feels tempting to complain when life seems difficult or not going our way, and more tempting to complain when we get around our girlfriends and family. And to top it all off, us women can be really good at negative programming. We constantly tell ourselves what is not good enough, our hair, our relationship, our skin, our job, our body, our finances, our health, someone else's behavior, and the list goes on.

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00] Even though what we're complaining about might have some truth to it, we're still speaking about our life and ourselves in a disempowering way. If you're at a place where you're struggling or your life is not where you want it to be yet, look and pay attention to the words coming out of your mouth. Become really aware when you speak to other people, and instead of talking about your struggles or what you don't have yet, start talking about what it is you desire and what you're currently doing to get there.

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00] When you're feeling tempted to complain and talk about what's not working in your life, there's a little trick that you can do that I heard from Stephen Furtick's, where he said to add this statement at the end of your sentences, and that's just the way I want it. And I think that's brilliant. So for example, it looks something like this. I'm scared I'm gonna end up alone, and that's just the way I want it. I'm so overwhelmed, and that's just the way I want it.

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_00] No matter what I do, I just can't seem to lose weight, and that's just the way I want it. There are no good men or women in this town, and that's just the way I want it. I'm so tired, and that's just the way I want it. I'm struggling with faith and hope, and that's just the way I want it. Whoa, talk about stripping down your words. So when you hear those statements, you stop and kind of go, no, that's not the way I want it.

[00:03:47] [SPEAKER_00] So as you can see, we can disempower our life by the words we choose to speak without even realizing. So how do we change these words from disempowering to empowering our life instead? Let's go over some disempowering and empowering statements. Disempowering statement, I'm scared I'm gonna end up alone. Empowering statement, I haven't met my soulmate yet, but I'm loving myself and creating a life that I adore,

[00:04:15] [SPEAKER_00] and I know that'll happen at the right time, and that's just the way I want it. Disempowering statement, no matter what I do, I just can't seem to lose weight. Empowering statement, I'm in the process of taking the right steps for my health and weight loss that will lead to losing weight, and that's just the way I want it. Disempowering statement, I'm so overwhelmed. Empowering statement, you know what?

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00] Lately, I've been feeling overwhelmed, but that could also be a mindset thing. So I'm now delegating and doing the best I can do to no longer feel overwhelmed. That's just the way I want it. Now that you have this tool, I cannot wait for you to use it and tell me how it's changing your life. For me, I noticed I was saying, I'm so tired and I have so much to do. It's not like there's no truth to this, but like I said before,

[00:05:08] [SPEAKER_00] even though what we're complaining about has some nuggets of truth, it's not really helpful. As a matter of fact, just before this blog post, my mom called me over the phone and halfway through our conversation, she said, you sound really tired. I had a chuckle because when you're in this type of industry, the universe always sends you assignments to make sure you're practicing walking your talk. You might be wondering what my response was. Well, this is what I said.

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00] Yeah, I actually am, but I'm doing some things for my health so that I won't feel as tired. And I'm also going to get some rest later. So we either use words to speak life or death over our life. Use them wisely. You just listened to the post titled, My New Favorite Tool for Supporting Your Desires by Irene Elias of selflovejunkie.com. And I'll be right back with my commentary.

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[00:08:22] [SPEAKER_00] especially when things feel tough or we're just talking with friends or family. I know for me, I can definitely relate to that idea of getting stuck in a thought pattern. Like sometimes I'll catch myself thinking, I'm down in the dumps. And then it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I might tell myself, oh, once the weather gets better, then I'll snap out of it. Or, I just need more sleep, then I'll feel more energetic. But using her technique, if I said, well, I'm down in the dumps and that's just the way I want it,

[00:08:52] [SPEAKER_00] well, that's not the way I really want it, which shows how disempowering that original thought is. And we can use her method to shift it. And while it's a simple shift, our words and thoughts really do have a ton of power. We talk about affirmations and being mindful of our thoughts pretty often here on this show. We even have a podcast that goes through affirmations right before bed. That one's called Good Sleep. You can check that out too. It's definitely worth trying out. Hopefully it can help you.

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