3651: Who Are You Without All Your Stuff? by Kerri Richardson on Simplicity and Personal Growth

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[00:01:00] [SPEAKER_00] It's a Minimalist Monday edition of Optimal Living Daily. Who are you without all your stuff? By Kerry Richardson of KerryRichardson.com And I'm Justin Malek. I'm going to keep this intro nice and minimal for Minimalist Monday, so let's get right to it and continue optimizing your life. Who are you without all your stuff? By Kerry Richardson of KerryRichardson.com

[00:01:27] [SPEAKER_00] Imagine a moving company comes into your home, packs up every item you own, and I mean everything, including the clothes on your back, and puts it all in storage. How do you think you'd handle that level of exposure and vulnerability? I've been riveted by a new show on Bravo TV called Stripped, where participants volunteer for this exact scenario. For a variety of reasons, they choose to have everything they own taken from them and put into storage for 21 days.

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00] This includes the keys to their car, all technology, money, clothes, food, toiletries, furniture, etc. They're given water, toilet paper, and MREs, meals ready to eat, for their basic survival. Every day, each participant can choose one item from storage, but they must walk half a mile to the container. That means on day one, they're walking with no clothes or shoes.

[00:02:23] [SPEAKER_00] People have been very creative, covering themselves with large plant leaves or trash they find along the way. They can ask people for money or find ways to earn it, but that money can only be used for food or transportation. The idea is to strip them of all their vices, distractions, and shields to see how they operate on the bare necessities. One woman learned how self-critical she was when she found it difficult to leave the house without a quote-unquote proper outfit and no makeup.

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_00] One man learned how unworthy he felt of his wife's love and that he feared never being enough for her. One woman had to face the reality that it was time for a difficult conversation with her father. Another woman feared being forgotten by her friends because she couldn't be in constant contact with them. As each person chooses one item a day to retrieve, they quickly learn what their priorities are and can then evaluate how aligned those priorities are or aren't with the vision they have for their life.

[00:03:23] [SPEAKER_00] What makes someone choose a cowboy hat over soap or stiletto heels over a mattress? It's a fascinating experiment to watch. When you think about being stripped of all your belongings, how does it make you feel? Are you stressed? Terrified? Excited? What are you relieved to be relieved of? There's a sense of freedom that comes with clear spaces. Yet there's also the likelihood of your mind getting crowded.

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_00] When you sit in a stark, empty room, the only thing you have is your thoughts and that can be terrifying for some people. As one participant said, quote, I have no choice but to feel all the emotions I usually distract myself from, end quote. And what a powerful discovery this invites, that those emotions we're so afraid to feel are, in fact, fleeting when we let them in instead of trying to keep them out. You see, the clutter is actually your resistance, not the emotions.

[00:04:20] [SPEAKER_00] Whether physical, emotional, or mental, spending time with your clutter and learning from it is where your power lies, not in ignoring it or running from it. When you clear out that which no longer serves you, you open yourself to powerful insight while making space to welcome in that which you desire. Try and put yourself in the scenario of this television show. What would you choose on day one, day nine, day 21?

[00:04:47] [SPEAKER_00] For shits and giggles, consider listing out the 21 items you'd choose and then see what your choices say about you. What are the items you thought were important but that remain in storage at the end of the experiment? Why did you choose the items you did? What do they mean to you? Could your possessions be getting in the way of you making the changes you want to make in your life? Maybe they're preventing you from even knowing what those changes are. That has certainly been the case for many of the show's participants thus far.

[00:05:15] [SPEAKER_00] It's often not until they're faced with a complete blank canvas that they can connect with their personal values. You don't have to go through such an extreme experiment to get in touch with your values, however. Instead, you can challenge yourself to a miniature version. So try this. Number one, choose a category of items you own.

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00] It might be clothes, toiletries, makeup, shoes, purses, ties, jewelry, or anything else you feel you have an excess of. Choose a category that feels difficult to limit. Number two, for one week, pay attention to what you use or wear versus what you don't, then separate them from one another. For example, hang everything you regularly wear in one half of your closet and everything else in the other half.

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_00] Or put your frequently used makeup in one container and leave the rest in another. Make it so the items you don't use often aren't as easily accessible as your go-to pieces. Number three, now in week two, only allow yourself to use those frequently used items you identified in week one. This will begin to show you what you could live without.

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00] Number four, make note of how you feel or what thoughts come up for you as you realize those other items cannot be in the rotation. Are you annoyed, relieved, indifferent? And number five, at the end of week two, spend 15 minutes journaling about your experience. Did anything come up that surprised you? How did it feel to be limited with what you could use or choose? Did it help you identify some things you're ready to let go of?

[00:06:56] [SPEAKER_00] What did you learn about yourself? At the end of each episode of Stripped, the viewer is told how many items the participant let go of as a result of their experience. One woman donated 35 pairs of shoes and one couple donated 1,000 pieces of clothing. It's incredibly liberating to be freed from the weight of too much stuff, but it can also be uncomfortable, particularly if you use clutter as a safety net, a boundary, more an excuse.

[00:07:26] [SPEAKER_00] And before you scoff at that idea, keep that in mind as you review the journaling you do at the end of the exercise. Most people who use clutter in this way don't realize they're doing it. Instead, they simply wrestle with not being able to move their lives forward and can't seem to figure out why. And that is the power of uncovering the message in the mess. Looking at clutter this way, whether books, clothes, paperwork, draining relationships, or limiting beliefs,

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_00] can help you heal aspects of your life you've likely struggled with for a long time. You just listened to the post titled, Who Are You Without All Your Stuff? by Kerry Richardson of kerryrichardson.com And I'll be right back with my commentary. If you've shopped online, chances are you've bought from a business powered by Shopify. You know that purple shop pay button you see at checkout? The one that makes buying so incredibly easy? That's Shopify.

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[00:09:46] [SPEAKER_00] Thank you to Kerry. I've actually never heard of that TV show and tried to find it, but no luck finding a service that's streaming it. Definitely an extreme version of decluttering, but it really makes you think. It's interesting that one of the participants said, I have no choice but to feel all the emotions I usually distract myself from. I'm sure we could both relate to that one. I think for everyone, our possessions can act as a buffer, a distraction from what's really going on inside our heads.

[00:10:15] [SPEAKER_00] I've talked about it before, but a few times in my life, I've had a digital detox with no phone, no computer, and no internet. Anywhere from a week to about a month. It's definitely something I recommend everyone try at some point. Without the usual digital clutter to occupy my mind, a lot of stuff came to the surface, but I also had a lot of fun being in the moment. You don't have to go to such an extreme to get some of these insights.

[00:10:42] [SPEAKER_00] Just choosing one category like your clothes and limiting yourself for a week to see what you truly use and need, it's a really practical way to start. So thank you to Kerry for this one. Thank you for being here and listening to me and for subscribing to or following the show. Have a great rest of your day, and I'll be back tomorrow reading to you where your optimal life awaits.