4158: [Part 2] 8 Things Happy, Successful People Never Say by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel on Emotional Resilience

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[00:00:30] [SPEAKER_00] This is Optimal Living Daily. 8 Things Happy, Successful People Never Say. Part 2 by Marc Chernoff of Marc and Angel and I'm Justin Malik. Welcome to OLD, Optimal Living Daily, where I read articles to you with permission from the authors, but today being a continuation from yesterday, so I'd recommend listening to yesterday's episode first. But if you're all caught up, let's get right to part 2 and continue optimizing your life.

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00] 8 Things Happy, Successful People Never Say. Part 2 by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel.com. Number 4. This sucks. The worst obstacle in life is a bad attitude. Remember, it's not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_00] You can't let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones. Don't let the silly little dramas of each day get you down. Smile, even when it feels like things are falling apart. Smiling doesn't always mean you're happy. Sometimes it just means you're strong. Likewise, do not let the negative opinions of others derail you. Throughout your life, you'll meet two kinds of people. Those who are a drain on your energy and try to derail your dreams, and those who give you the energy to pursue your dreams.

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_00] Ignore the first kind and cherish the second. People that doubt, judge, and disrespect you are not worth your time and attention. Number 5. I hate you. As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, quote, Darkness cannot drive out darkness. Only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that. End quote.

[00:02:17] [SPEAKER_00] Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart. So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don't hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don't look back. And remember that getting even doesn't help you get ahead. You'll never get ahead of anyone as long as you try to get even with them.

[00:02:45] [SPEAKER_00] Sometimes we don't forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it, because we need it, and because we cannot move forward without it. To forgive is to rediscover the inner peace and purpose that at first you thought someone took away when they betrayed you. Number 6. I can't. Yes, you can. Stop stressing over what could have been, because the chances are if it should have been, it would have been.

[00:03:15] [SPEAKER_00] You may feel discouraged. You may feel upset. You may feel too old. You may be sick. You may be divorced. You may be unemployed. You may be financially strapped. You may be etc. But you're not dead. You are alive. Your journey is far from over. Forget about how you thought things were supposed to be.

[00:03:37] [SPEAKER_00] Just because some things didn't work out as you had expected or didn't happen as fast as you thought they would is no excuse to give up on yourself. Time passes one way or the other. Do what you need to do so that, at the very least, you can look back someday and say, I gave life my best shot. Number 7. I missed my chance. Nothing is permanent in this crazy world. Not even your mistakes, failures, or troubles.

[00:04:05] [SPEAKER_00] So laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not be exactly where you had intended to go, but you are precisely where you need to be to take the next best step forward. As Maria Robinson once said, This is your life. Shape it, or someone else will try for you.

[00:04:34] [SPEAKER_00] Strength shows not only in the ability to hold on, but in the ability to start over when you must. It's never too late to become what you might have been. Keep learning, adapting, and growing. You may not be there yet, but you are closer than you were yesterday. And number 8. Never mind, it's not important. A great deal of unhappiness comes into the world because of confusion, bewilderment, and things left unsaid.

[00:05:02] [SPEAKER_00] Many times in life, I've regretted things I've said without thinking, but I've never regretted the things I said nearly as much as the words I've left unspoken. Speak up. Don't hide your thoughts and feelings, especially when you can make a difference. Be brave. Say what needs to be said. When you don't communicate effectively with those around you, there's a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said, and a lot of beautiful emotion that ends up not being felt.

[00:05:30] [SPEAKER_00] There's no greater sadness than holding on to the words you never had the courage to speak. You just listened to part 2 of the post titled, 8 Things Happy Successful People Never Say, by Marc Chernoff of markandangel.com. And I'll be right back with my commentary. Now I want to tell you about a book that stuck with me. Life at the Speed of Play. Launch Products People Love, by Mark Pincus.

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[00:07:14] [SPEAKER_00] Thank you again to Mark. Out of this last set of things that happy, successful people never say, the one that I probably struggle with the most is the last one, the never-mind-it's-not-important line. Because I do tend to be on the quieter, more shy side in general, and on top of that, my personality is more of the peacemaker than the confrontational type. So I'll often say nothing rather than create some kind of conflict. But Mark makes a good point. There's a great quote in there.

[00:07:44] [SPEAKER_00] He said, I've never regretted the things I said nearly as much as the words I've left unspoken. It might be easier said than done, but it's something to work on, if you're anything like me. And actually, all of these are worth thinking about, reflecting if they're things we say to ourselves, and then trying to make adjustments so that they, at the very least, happen less frequently.

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_00] Again, not necessarily easy, but hopefully just hearing an article like this will help bring that awareness to the front of our minds today. That's usually how it works for me. The show is sort of like a meditative practice by itself, guiding us to think about certain things for the day, and then work on a little something else tomorrow. And I think that consistent practice adds up a lot over time. It just compounds. And I feel like it has for me, at least. Hopefully for you, too. But I'll leave it there for today. Thank you for listening.

[00:08:37] [SPEAKER_00] Have a great rest of your day, and I'll see you tomorrow. Where your optimal life awaits.