2911: Awareness and Resistance by Steve Pavlina on Paying Attention to Your Thoughts

[00:00:00] [SPEAKER_00]: This is Optimal Living Daily Episode 2911 Awareness and Resistance by Steve Pavlina of Steve Pavlina.com, and I'm just a Malik

[00:00:10] [SPEAKER_00]: and we're going to jump right into today's post as we optimize your life. Awareness and Resistance by Steve Pavlina of Steve Pavlina.com

[00:00:25] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm well aware that many people will become staff, turned off, put-off or simply want me to step off

[00:00:32] [SPEAKER_00]: when I stray from safe topics like productivity and time management and explore more sensitive, even controversial topics like relationships, health, or spirituality.

[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_00]: However, from past experiences, I've seen that it's the ideas we resist most vehemently that are fertile ground for new growth experiences.

[00:00:52] [SPEAKER_00]: Through this blog I'm providing ideas for you to react to, and your reaction to those ideas becomes the seed for your own personal growth.

[00:01:01] [SPEAKER_00]: If an idea resonates with you great, if an idea seems to have no impact on you, it's not likely important for your growth.

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: But if an idea sparks a fire of resistance within you, there you have a potent seed for growth.

[00:01:16] [SPEAKER_00]: Exploring your own resistance ideas can help you clarify your own thinking and understand why you believe what you do.

[00:01:24] [SPEAKER_00]: My goal isn't to convert everyone to my way of thinking about subjects like diet or spirituality or relationships.

[00:01:32] [SPEAKER_00]: My goal is to help raise your awareness of how you think and behave, and to encourage you to make such choices more consciously and deliberately, instead of falling back on social conditioning and or mindlessness.

[00:01:45] [SPEAKER_00]: I have more genuine respect for the meat eater who takes the time to explore and think about his or her diet carefully makes a conscious choice about what to eat, acts in accordance with those beliefs and continues to remain open to new information.

[00:01:59] [SPEAKER_00]: Then I do for the vegan who simply eats that way because it's how he or she was raised to behave and never gave it any conscious thought.

[00:02:08] [SPEAKER_00]: I have the greatest respect for those who consciously and deliberately explore all aspects of their lives without excessive fear, defensiveness, or resistance.

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Those who are most open to finding out the truth as opposed to justifying their current beliefs.

[00:02:25] [SPEAKER_00]: Becoming more conscious and aware requires that we do know and that we don't ignore information, especially when it provokes resistance within us.

[00:02:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Live consciously and deliberately with full awareness of what exactly it is you are doing and being.

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: That process leads many people towards similar types of diets, relationships, and spiritual beliefs, but pursue this path for yourself and see where it leads you.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to adopt some particular lifestyle.

[00:02:54] [SPEAKER_00]: It's to look at all the information you've gathered from your own personal experience and make what you genuinely believe to be the best choice for you.

[00:03:03] [SPEAKER_00]: If you want to become more conscious, one of the best places to start is with your resistance.

[00:03:09] [SPEAKER_00]: I noticing the areas of your life where you can easily be made defensive and resist ideas emotionally,

[00:03:15] [SPEAKER_00]: you'll see the places where you have tremendous opportunity for growth.

[00:03:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine, for example, a couple you may know whose relationships seem lifeless.

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_00]: If you try to raise the issue with them, they may practically boot you out the door, you meet with strong resistance.

[00:03:31] [SPEAKER_00]: For that couple, their relationship is an area where they have high potential for growth,

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: where we most resist change is precisely where we must change.

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Resisting an idea emotionally and becoming defensive isn't the same as disagreeing with an idea.

[00:03:48] [SPEAKER_00]: If I tell you that I'm really 250 years old, you may dismiss me as a liar or an idiot,

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_00]: but my statement is unlikely to provoke your emotional resistance or make you defensive.

[00:03:59] [SPEAKER_00]: You simply disagree, but you don't resist.

[00:04:03] [SPEAKER_00]: However, if I tell you that you look fat and should change your diet,

[00:04:06] [SPEAKER_00]: that may indeed provoke some emotional resistance, depending on the degree to which that statement reflects

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00]: back to you in area where you need to grow. I believe that if an idea provokes emotional

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_00]: defensiveness and resistance and not merely intellectual disagreement, therein lies a grain of truth

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_00]: that must be faced in order for you to grow. If I tell you your marriage is a sham and that

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: she get a divorce, you'll simply blow me off if you don't believe it, but if there's an

[00:04:36] [SPEAKER_00]: element of truth to my statement, you'll likely become defensive with increasing tenacity

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00]: the more I press the issue. But the only way to get past that resistance is to face it and to become

[00:04:49] [SPEAKER_00]: more fully conscious of exactly what you've been resisting, such as the reality that your marriage

[00:04:55] [SPEAKER_00]: isn't working, that your diet is wrong for you, or that your career isn't fulfilling.

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_00]: If you and I were to have a one-on-one conversation about your life,

[00:05:05] [SPEAKER_00]: which topics could I bring up that would provoke you to become emotionally defensive and resistant?

[00:05:10] [SPEAKER_00]: What could I say that would really be fufuof and even make you angry at me? Your health, physical

[00:05:16] [SPEAKER_00]: body, job, finances, relationships, social skills, parenting skills, family, religious beliefs,

[00:05:25] [SPEAKER_00]: political beliefs, emotional state, your courage, your confidence, your discipline, your sorted

[00:05:33] [SPEAKER_00]: past, your worst habit, your addictions. What will provoke the fight or flight response making you

[00:05:39] [SPEAKER_00]: feel a strong need to either kick me out or fight back hard? Not simple, intellectual disagreement,

[00:05:46] [SPEAKER_00]: but the type of response that shuts down your ability to think logically and has you reacting

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_00]: far more emotionally. What is it? Resistance shows us where we need more conscious clarity.

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_00]: As you recognize and explore resistance in yourself and become more courageous and facing the

[00:06:04] [SPEAKER_00]: unfaithful parts of your life, you will in fact become much more conscious and aware,

[00:06:10] [SPEAKER_00]: which will increase your ability to face down other areas of resistance with greater success.

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: It'll be increasingly difficult for anyone else to put you into a state of emotional defensiveness

[00:06:20] [SPEAKER_00]: because you'll become open to new ideas and information without needing to resist them.

[00:06:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Clarity will become more important to you than comfort, change will feel more natural than stability.

[00:06:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Invite ideas to flow through your awareness freely. Think about them, agree or disagree with

[00:06:41] [SPEAKER_00]: them, but when you find yourself emotionally resisting them, recognize that the resistance is within

[00:06:47] [SPEAKER_00]: you, not the idea. When you track down the source of that resistance, you will soon recognize

[00:06:54] [SPEAKER_00]: where you most need to grow. You just listen to the post titled Awareness and Resistance

[00:07:04] [SPEAKER_00]: by Steve Pavlina of Steve Pavlina.com. Take it to Steve. He is vegan last I heard so when he was

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: talking about that it was from personal experience. It's interesting just reading this myself I found

[00:07:18] [SPEAKER_00]: myself getting almost punched in the gut a little you know. I don't know if you felt that too

[00:07:23] [SPEAKER_00]: but I can't argue with what he's saying, his logic that you tend to have an emotional response

[00:07:29] [SPEAKER_00]: when it's true. I found that interesting. It makes sense like when he was talking about physical

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: appearance I actually felt that. That's an area that I tend to neglect often and I tend to prioritize

[00:07:42] [SPEAKER_00]: things like work which I do enjoy but maybe it's not always best for me in the moment and he's

[00:07:47] [SPEAKER_00]: right it's an area I can improve. An area where I could optimize my life. Someone right if that's

[00:07:53] [SPEAKER_00]: how you felt too, maybe it's just me. In either case something to think about and pondered this

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_00]: weekend have a great weekend if you're listening in real time. Thank you if you are listening

[00:08:03] [SPEAKER_00]: in real time and listening every day is a huge help and keeps me going every single day but

[00:08:09] [SPEAKER_00]: should do it for another edition of OLD and I'll see you tomorrow where you're optimal life.

[00:08:13] [SPEAKER_00]: I'll wait.