2916: Happiness: 5 Steps to Turn Around Your Bad Mood by Jill Coleman of Jill Fit on Becoming a Happier Person

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[00:00:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Five Steps to Turn Around Your Bad Mood by Jill Coleman of JillFit.com

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[00:01:05] [SPEAKER_00]: Happiness.

[00:01:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Five Steps To Turn Around Your Bad Mood by Jill Coleman of JillFit.com

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Wake up on the wrong side of the bed, frustrated, bad mood.

[00:01:18] [SPEAKER_00]: We've all been there.

[00:01:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Here at JillFit, we believe that practicing positivity can have a huge impact on your natural way of interacting with the world.

[00:01:27] [SPEAKER_00]: Pulling you out of the victim mindset so that you can feel powerful and inspired, creating your life, not a slave to it.

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: It is indeed a practice that gets easier than the more you will practice it.

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Here are my five steps on how to turn that frown upside down in a meaningful real way.

[00:01:46] [SPEAKER_00]: This stuff makes an actual difference in how your life plays out. It's not fluff.

[00:01:51] [SPEAKER_00]: No longer you expect and getting the worst, but instead,

[00:01:55] [SPEAKER_00]: you're hopeful for the future, appreciate it in the present and consciously educated by your past.

[00:02:02] [SPEAKER_00]: So next time you feel down and out, go here.

[00:02:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, choose to be positive.

[00:02:09] [SPEAKER_00]: This is often the hardest part. Sometimes we feel better wallowing in self-pity.

[00:02:14] [SPEAKER_00]: You can feel good to go around telling people how bad we have it to go under pity.

[00:02:19] [SPEAKER_00]: I've done it a million times.

[00:02:21] [SPEAKER_00]: No way is better than the other. There's no judgment as just to acknowledge that we are, in fact, choosing to stay in that negative place rather than find a solution.

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Not ready to climb out yet? No problem. Just be mindful and come when you're ready.

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Number two, name the emotion.

[00:02:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Talban Shahar and his book being happy talks about the importance of not suppressing emotions,

[00:02:46] [SPEAKER_00]: but instead recognizing them and allowing yourself to feel them in the moment.

[00:02:52] [SPEAKER_00]: By doing this, we can move on more quickly.

[00:02:55] [SPEAKER_00]: For example, if you're upset that you indulged a little too much, go ahead and notice,

[00:03:01] [SPEAKER_00]: then name the emotion, guilt, shame, remorse, embarrassment.

[00:03:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Going there in your mind allows for you to move on quicker, which is, of course, the point.

[00:03:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Once you name it, you're able to more quickly let it go.

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_00]: We like to have our clients do something productive and physical at this point,

[00:03:20] [SPEAKER_00]: like a one minute burst of burpees or squat jumps to signal a positive move beyond.

[00:03:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, acknowledge the worst case scenario, but don't expect it.

[00:03:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Disappointed that you've plateaued on your fat loss, ask yourself,

[00:03:36] [SPEAKER_00]: what would be the worst thing to happen to me if I stayed this same weight forever?

[00:03:40] [SPEAKER_00]: Chances are the reality of the worst case scenario is not nearly as grim as you make it up to be in your head.

[00:03:46] [SPEAKER_00]: You can handle the worst case scenario.

[00:03:49] [SPEAKER_00]: When we don't look at the possibility of worst case scenario, we act out of fear.

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_00]: But when we acknowledge it, we're able to feel more in control and also seeing new possibilities

[00:04:00] [SPEAKER_00]: because now we know we can always handle the worst life throws at us.

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_00]: Quote, you're never given more pain than you can handle.

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_00]: You never ever get more than you can take.

[00:04:12] [SPEAKER_00]: Byron Katie.

[00:04:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Number four, ask yourself, what do I really want?

[00:04:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Chances are you don't want to be unhappy, frustrated or guilty.

[00:04:23] [SPEAKER_00]: You might justify your negative attitude by exasperatingly explaining your circumstances,

[00:04:29] [SPEAKER_00]: arguing your point or making excuses.

[00:04:31] [SPEAKER_00]: But the bottom line is that all your self-generated excuses are not serving you.

[00:04:38] [SPEAKER_00]: All they do is uphold your own bad mood, which is what you say you don't want.

[00:04:42] [SPEAKER_00]: So cut out the middle man and just take responsibility for the circumstances

[00:04:46] [SPEAKER_00]: or at least you're attitude toward them and move on.

[00:04:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Besides, this is what you want, yes?

[00:04:53] [SPEAKER_00]: Do you want to be right or do you want to be free?

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_00]: The only person you're justifications hurt is yourself.

[00:05:00] [SPEAKER_00]: And number five, find one thing for which to be grateful in any situation.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_00]: Gratitude is literally a game changer.

[00:05:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Man as Coach Gillian says it is the opposite of complaining.

[00:05:13] [SPEAKER_00]: When you're complaining, you cannot be grateful and vice versa.

[00:05:17] [SPEAKER_00]: When you show appreciation for anything,

[00:05:19] [SPEAKER_00]: you're turning the tides on your negative attitude.

[00:05:22] [SPEAKER_00]: I've said about overeating dessert.

[00:05:24] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm grateful because now I know what it feels like to be stuffed and feel physically sick.

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_00]: And I'll be more mindful next time.

[00:05:31] [SPEAKER_00]: Frustrated with a friend or partner.

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I'm grateful to have people in my life that are different from me

[00:05:36] [SPEAKER_00]: because it exposes me to new ideas and ways of thinking.

[00:05:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Even though I may not agree, I am grateful for the exposure.

[00:05:45] [SPEAKER_00]: Get cut off on the way to work.

[00:05:47] [SPEAKER_00]: I'm grateful that I did not get in an accident.

[00:05:50] [SPEAKER_00]: When you do this, you don't need to make excuses or wish things were different.

[00:05:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Is it rude if someone cut you off?

[00:05:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Of course, but what can you really do about it?

[00:06:00] [SPEAKER_00]: You're the one who's upset.

[00:06:02] [SPEAKER_00]: The person who cut you off is not thinking about it. Believe me.

[00:06:05] [SPEAKER_00]: So you move on to.

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_00]: Literally, you can do this in any situation and it is a game changer.

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: I mentioned in blogs last year that I had some personal challenges and honestly,

[00:06:18] [SPEAKER_00]: these techniques turn things around for me, especially number five.

[00:06:23] [SPEAKER_00]: When you can find the lesson and even the worst of circumstances,

[00:06:26] [SPEAKER_00]: you'll be a thousand times happier.

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_00]: When you can see struggles as a gift, it makes you feel more relaxed, unattached and just okay.

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: I know from experience.

[00:06:37] [SPEAKER_00]: I want you to know that I never talked about anything in these blogs that I myself have not experienced.

[00:06:43] [SPEAKER_00]: Last year was the irreversibility.

[00:06:45] [SPEAKER_00]: And this year is the year of pushing forward in a big positive way.

[00:06:49] [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you are all with me.

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_00]: You just listened to the post titled Happiness.

[00:06:58] [SPEAKER_00]: Five steps to turn around your bad mood by Joe Coleman of JillFit.com.

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[00:08:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Take it to Jill. Another five steps.

[00:08:21] [SPEAKER_00]: We had five steps over the weekend when we talked about getting changed to stick,

[00:08:26] [SPEAKER_00]: and then actually another five steps coming up on Friday talking about catching up.

[00:08:31] [SPEAKER_00]: And with that said, the last thing I want is for you to listen to this show and feel like more gets added to your to-do list,

[00:08:38] [SPEAKER_00]: because that's not what it's about.

[00:08:39] [SPEAKER_00]: It's about framing your day with some positivity and really a practice of remembering to basically

[00:08:47] [SPEAKER_00]: do good, healthy things like checking in, watching your thoughts and so on.

[00:08:53] [SPEAKER_00]: We need these reminders because they're not easy. Simple, maybe, but not easy.

[00:08:58] [SPEAKER_00]: But anyway, back to today's post and this relates to what Hustra is saying,

[00:09:02] [SPEAKER_00]: it definitely happens to me where I have a bad dream, maybe, or don't sleep well,

[00:09:07] [SPEAKER_00]: and I'm already starting the day on the wrong foot.

[00:09:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Like I can have an argument with someone in my dream,

[00:09:12] [SPEAKER_00]: and then have a weird feeling about that person that day. That's a normal phenomenon,

[00:09:18] [SPEAKER_00]: but with a little bit of framing and remembering,

[00:09:21] [SPEAKER_00]: I can reverse that and actually laugh about the whole thing.

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_00]: Remembering and reflecting, that's key. Hopefully this podcast helps you do that.

[00:09:29] [SPEAKER_00]: It does for me.

[00:09:31] [SPEAKER_00]: So thank you for coming back to listen every day and remembering along with me.

[00:09:35] [SPEAKER_00]: Have a great rest of your day and I'll see you tomorrow, where you're optimal life, my wits.