2938: Change And Why You Don't Have To Suck At It by Greg Audino on Adversity & Resiliency

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[00:01:07] to Suck At It by Greg Audino of Gregaudino.com and your narrator Justin Malik reading you blogs

[00:01:14] every single day of the year including holidays. Without further ado, let's get right to it

[00:01:19] as we optimize your life. Change and Why You Don't Have to Suck At It by Greg Audino of Gregaudino.com

[00:01:32] How do I even begin this? After all, change is one of those concepts that is really just too

[00:01:37] large to fathom. It exists in everything. It's everywhere. It always has and always will.

[00:01:43] Kind of reminds me of outer space, just a never-ending, inescapable and ever-expansive

[00:01:49] vacuum that we're all a part of, whether we like it or not. I suppose then that the best place to

[00:01:54] start the discussion is with those that choose to deny its existence altogether, and maybe we've

[00:01:59] all had a little bit of this in us at one point or another. Speaking of those that insist backwards

[00:02:05] and forwards that there is no change in their life, everything is always the same, etc. The

[00:02:11] interesting thing about this is that some are happy about it, others are whining about it.

[00:02:16] However you feel about it, if you are one of those people that claim there is no change in your life,

[00:02:21] I regret to inform you that such a ridiculous accusation is rooted completely and utterly

[00:02:27] in fear. But where does that fear come from? And how can the same source of fear result in

[00:02:32] some people being happy and others being whiny? Well, ultimately the fear starts by having

[00:02:38] an overemphasis on the outside world. By not having enough love or trust in oneself that

[00:02:43] ultimately your outer circumstances are left to define your happiness. Fear not, very few people in

[00:02:49] the world are not in this boat and therefore not pummeled by the idea of change. What comes from

[00:02:55] that however and affects slightly fewer people is what I like to call the invisible anchor.

[00:03:01] Most of us are constantly in pursuit of an anchor to our lives and unbending solution

[00:03:06] to the majority of our problems. We say things like one day I'll have the perfect

[00:03:10] relationship or job or home etc and that will always be in place and it'll make all other

[00:03:16] things easier. We do this because we want to trust that something will always look after us and do

[00:03:22] the work of keeping us okay so we can go on autopilot. But the truth is that that doesn't

[00:03:27] exist and it doesn't exist because no outside source can possibly keep up with the constant

[00:03:33] change that is your life. So when things on the outside are generally fine even though

[00:03:38] inside's a mess you feel like everything is going alright in life and you're tricked into thinking

[00:03:43] that the anchor is in place. Of course you try to ignore the fact that your situation can and will

[00:03:49] change. These are the people that are happy to deny change because they like things just the way

[00:03:54] they are and change threatens what will soon prove to be a finite blanket of outer circumstances

[00:04:00] that they have draped themselves in. The only difference between these people who are happy

[00:04:04] without change and those who complain about no change happening in their lives is that one party

[00:04:09] likes their current situation and the other doesn't but is afraid that attempting to make change will

[00:04:15] only result in failure which of course will leave them without anything to believe in.

[00:04:20] The fact is it's the same fear of not having things figured out. We're scared of the emotional

[00:04:26] challenges that we'll face in accommodating two changes of all shapes and sizes because

[00:04:30] it requires work but this is one of those things in life that is inevitable. So change is scary for

[00:04:36] those who try to pretend that it won't always happen and try to hide from it whether it's trying

[00:04:41] to prevent a potential oncoming change being too fearful to initiate the change you desire

[00:04:46] or resisting a change that's already happened. Of course you're setting yourself up for failure.

[00:04:51] For as much as humans crave the uncertainty of adventure, spontaneity and risk we also

[00:04:57] crave the certainty of believing we can always lean on something outside of ourselves. Something

[00:05:02] that'll absorb the brunt of the impact and keep us safe no matter what. It's like children clung

[00:05:07] to their parents but we all know the truth don't we? We're always one decision away from

[00:05:12] having an entirely new life. Change is indeed that powerful and that possible so get a jump

[00:05:19] start by reclaiming your power over any doubt you may have. Shift your attention to what

[00:05:24] you want by becoming a dictator of change thus changing your relationship with the idea of change

[00:05:30] and being less rattled when changes out of your control come to you. It can be a long journey

[00:05:35] inward to become one of the many that don't overemphasize the outside world but you can begin

[00:05:40] by focusing on the change that you want for yourself and if you'll entertain me I think

[00:05:45] the following simple exercise will help you clear the air and do just that whether we're

[00:05:50] talking about relationship change, career change or whatever else write and honor three lists for

[00:05:57] yourself. The first is a list of things you want to continue doing things that feel right bring

[00:06:04] you joy and would be nice to keep around. The second list is a list of things you want to

[00:06:09] start doing that which you want to incorporate into your life but haven't paid due attention

[00:06:14] to in the past. The third list is a list of things you want to stop doing poisons that

[00:06:20] have had a negative effect on your current situation and would not be useful to you in the change

[00:06:25] you're creating for yourself. By creating these lists you'll put yourself back in the driver's

[00:06:30] seat and be reminded that you are the director of your life capable of developing the change that

[00:06:35] you want and having the right blueprint to stick to when unexpected adverse change

[00:06:41] does inevitably come to you. You just listen to the post titled change and why you don't

[00:06:51] have to suck at it by Greg Audino of Gregaudino.com. If they get a Greg, if that name isn't familiar

[00:06:58] to you Greg Audino it should be. He's the host of optimal relationships daily which is just like

[00:07:03] this show but instead of focusing on personal development and minimalism he narrates authors

[00:07:08] covering relationships all types of relationships and also try out those lists he mentioned

[00:07:13] at the end of the post. I always love it when there's a nice short takeaway something we

[00:07:17] can work on from these posts. So as a quick reminder those three lists were things you want to

[00:07:23] continue doing start doing and stop doing simple as that. So try it out thank you for listening

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