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1. Eddie Corbano on “Happiness”
“Your Ex is not responsible for your happiness.”
– Eddie Corbano / Episode 86
Eddie Corbano is a breakup recovery expert. His quote reminds us that we need to understand that we are responsible for our own happiness.
Your ex may have done or said terrible things to you, which may have been a big reason for dissolving the relationship.
When you focus on what makes you happy, you don't rely on anyone else for happiness and fulfillment. It frees you up to focus on the good things you'd like to bring into your life now that your ex is no longer in the picture.
2. Lisa Merlo-Booth on “Your Ideal Partner”
“[The person you live with] should not be the person who sucks the life out of you and leaves you feeling miserable about who’ve you become.”
– Lisa Merlo-Booth / Episode 179
Lisa Merlo-Booth is a straight-talking relationship expert with more than twenty years' experience with relationship coaching and therapy.
An ideal relationship is free from toxic patterns and behaviors. In the above episode, Lisa discusses the signs to watch out for in a toxic relationship.
A kind and loving relationship is one where you feel secure, not drained or with a sense that you've lost your self-identity.
3. Jeanine Reed on “The Power of Heartbreak”
“Sometimes we must suffer heartbreak to truly open us up and let out all the greatness we hold within.”
– Jeanine Reed / Episode 289
Jeanine is a baker, writer, and runner. Her post was featured on TinyBuddha.com which focuses on simple wisdom.
Jeanine's reflection reminds us how a broken heart need not be a completely bad and horrible thing. It helps you rediscover who you are and what you're capable of. It helps you to understand how your actions and choices are part of what goes into the life you create for yourself.
4. Eddie Corbano on “Self Worth”
“What most of us have in common is the lack of a sense of our worth, a strong disconnection from our real ME.”
– Eddie Corbano / Episode 411
Eddie's mission is to help you use your breakup experience to become your best self, and attract the partner who's ideal for you.
Have you ever felt like you stayed too long in a toxic or bad relationship? It's due to the disconnection you have from your level of self-worth. It blinds you to certain facts in an unhealthy relationship that you rationally may not put up with or accept in other situations.
5. Steve Pavlina on “Change”
“Does your partner exhibit any behavior that makes the relationship too difficult for you to stay in, and do you find your partner is either unwilling or incapable of changing?”
– Steve Pavlina / Episode 368
Steve Pavlina is one of the globe's most successful personal development bloggers. His work attracts upwards of 100 million visits to his site.
In this episode, Steve talks about how to decide if and when a long-term relationship should end. He shares what he learned from the book Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum, including questions to ask yourself to evaluate your relationship.
6. Colin Wright on “Breaking from Traditions”
“To me, a breakup party represents something fundamental about how relationships are evolving: the idea that we needn’t adhere to tradition for tradition’s sake.”
– Colin Wright / Episode 327
Colin Wright is an international speaker and professional author. He travels full-time and makes lots of new friendships and connections along the way.
In this episode, he shares his views on what a breakup party can symbolize. People and relationships do evolve over time. If adhering to tradition for its own sake is not making either person happy, it's time to think of what you really need in a relationship as you move forward.
7. Dr. Diana Kirschner on “Your Perception”
“After heartbreak, you may start to define yourself as rejected or damaged goods. This is so not true! Remember you get to determine how you perceive things.”
– Dr. Diana Kirschner / Episode 207
PBS Love expert, bestselling author, and psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner has helped thousands to find their dream relationship.
Your perception of a person or event can be very different from what someone else thinks. When it comes to your own life and relationship experiences, what you feel and think about yourself definitely takes priority over others' comments. Instead of feeling like a loser from heartbreak, change your perception and think of the ways you've grown from it when you're ready to begin the healing process.
8. J.D. Roth on “Relationship Dealbreakers”
“Being financially responsible is the foundation for everything else, especially once you have kids.”
– J. D. Roth on Relationship Deal Breakers / Episode 366
Sometimes, we may think that money is not the most important thing in a relationship.
J.D. Roth is a trained financial expert. In this episode, he shares what some of his relationship dealbreakers have been — and how some of them have changed — over the course of his life. Having lots of money is not the same thing as being financially responsible. The latter creates a sense of security, which is especially important when there are children involved.
9. Aaron Brook on “Defeat”
“You are never defeated by a break-up, merely impaired emotionally as to the reality set before your feet.”
– Aaron Brook / Episode 387
Aaron Brook is a reader and contributor to LovesAGame.com.
A breakup does not mean that you are doomed to fail at relationships for the rest of your life. It is indeed an emotional blow, but it's not a failure that will define you or the reality you choose to create for yourself in the post breakup months.
10. Angel Chernoff on “Healthy Relationships”
“The first step to having a truly healthy, long-term relationship with someone else is to have a healthy relationship with yourself.”
– Angel Chernoff / Episode 76
Angel of MarcAndAngel.com is a professional coach and New York Times bestselling author.
Angel's words remind us of the importance of working on understanding ourselves first before seeking out a relationship. Relying on someone else for happiness and fulfillment takes the responsibility out of your own hands. When you make self care a priority, you increase your chances of attracting someone you can have a sane and healthy relationship with.
Where Do I Go from Here?
If you'd like to have a PDF of these breakup recovery quotes, you can download it below.
You can also learn more about how to heal from a broken heart in our breakup recovery guide.